Are you busy?: take a few moments to reflect

Published by Alison Wem on

Today is expected to be a busy day at the shops as everyone gets those last items they need for Christmas. Or perhaps for some it is their first item!

In our affluent society of Christmas celebrations, present giving and receiving, Christmas trees and decorations – whether you are a Christian, Atheist, Druid, Muslim or any other faith, do you take time to reflect and express thanks for all in your life?

December is a good month to say ‘thank you’ to your loved ones for being in your life and for all they do with and for you.

 

Thank you to your partner who has worked hard all year to build a home and provide for their family.

Thank you to the mothers who have brought together a happy Diwali, Christmas or any other festival in your culture on top of their normal family duties.

Thank you to friends who have just been there for you, to laugh and cry with you.

Thank you to the children who have brought joy and love into your life even if it also brings you challenges.

Thank you to grandparents for listening to you and providing childcare support for those challenging moments.

In the busy run-up to year-end, pause for a moment and be grateful for the loved ones in your life and remember to let hem know you value having them in your life. The English are not always good at expressing themselves so an extra special reminder for those in the UK.

Thank you from me for your support in helping to share the Your Soul Family messages. Please share this post with friends and family to raise awareness on techniques to enable you to feel in control of your life so you can:

  • be more effective at work
  • live more harmoniously at home.

Free soul map templates here– choose a template and colour it to feel your calmness arrive.

Comment against this post on the things you would wish for yourself next year.

 

All the best for a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

Love, Alison Wem

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Life Lessons

How do I lead a soulful life?

There are always those things you feel you should get done but know in your heart you never will. Perhaps you agreed to arrange to meet someone you are not very keen on or its to clean out those dreaded items at the back of the wardrobe.

But what about those things that you know are important but can’t seem to get done?

How many times have you made a definite decision to do something?

There is no doubt – you are determined. Yet nothing happens. Why not?

Is your heart in agreement with your head?

You receive the promptings from your soul in your heart. Your soul encourages you to steer your life in the direction of your soul’s purpose. Time and energy spent on more mundane things in your life are of less interest to your soul.

Of course, you have the free will to listen to the promptings from your heart or to do the logical things which you want and need to do. We are all human, so there are basic things you need to do to live, such as provide a home and put food on the table. The Universe understands this, but is perhaps less excited by them.

Like many things, it is a case of balance.

You need time to be human, but you also need time to be with your soul and follow your soul’s purpose.

When you and your soul are aligned, you are at your most productive. Things just happen. What seemed impossible becomes possible. Doors seem to open and you are in the flow of life.

My experience is to be discerning on how you distribute your time and energy to tasks. Try giving a balanced amount to the human things you need to do and those that bring you joy, excitement and fun or help you along your spiritual path. If you become totally immersed in the former, there is no time left for the latter. It really is about you choosing your own priorities and consciously living your life as you want to. So many people are allowing themselves to be pulled in different directions by other people. The goal is to learn to;

Integrate soulful activities into your everyday life.

This is not as arduous as it sounds. Promptings from the heart are often about human behaviour. It may be as simple as saying thankful or helping someone who needs it.

When you feel in your heart something is right – this is the thing to do.

Emotions

How do I move forward after great loss?

Loss comes in many forms. A sense of loss is felt when you no longer have a person you love in your life or something such as a job, business or a home. The cause of the loss is varied such as death, a breakup, redundancy, a failed mortgage, but the outcome, a horrible feeling that strikes right at your heart, is the same.

For me loss and fear feel very similar. I lost my husband through an unexpected death in my 40s and experienced real fear from a very public failure of a business project I was leading in my 50s. Both had an enormous impact on my life and my security.

Loss and fear strike right at your heart as if someone has stabbed you.

How do you recover from such a strong emotion it affects you physically? You can’t make the loss go away. It is what it is.

Allow yourself to feel the pain and then let it go. It is not healthy to hold onto the pain as it will ultimately affect your body. In many cultures, it is encouraged to wail – a loud cry of pain, grief, or anger. All of these emotions come with loss and get muddled up together. Wailing is part of the process of letting go. In western cultures, it is not so condoned in modern times. But you can wail in private.

After my husband died, I use to wail in my bathroom late at night with a towel stuffed in my mouth so my children couldn’t hear me.

I needed the release of letting the pain out. Visualise your pain coming out of your body and floating away on a little white cloud. Give it to Mother Earth to deal with so nobody else absorbs your pain.

To help you get up in the morning and put one foot in front of the other – don’t look too far ahead. Take each day as it comes and deal with it. Just getting through the day is an achievement. You should congratulate yourself and not allow your thoughts to go around in your head with – what if?

Know that in time you will feel calmer.

Despite how you feel, the old adage time is a great healer is true. Only then is it right to consider a longer time horizon and what you might like to do next. It is alright to take your time. It is your life and everybody grieves the loss of something at their own pace.

Once you feel calmer, it will be easier to connect with your soul through your intuition. Your soul will help to comfort and heal you. It will give you good guidance.

Try to listen to your intuition and feel your guidance.

Life Lessons

Follow your dreams and find your happiness

Life is meant to be lived and enjoyed.  It is true everyone has challenges to help us to learn. But alongside that we are meant to enjoy this wonderful world we live in. The sight and the sound of the sea always lifts my emotions and makes me feel good. Simple things like this brings me joy.

Everyone should have a dream of how they would like their life to be.  Dreams are made to be followed.

Do you remember your dreams?

Everybody dreams but sometimes it is difficult to remember them. If this is the case, before you go to bed write on a piece of paper a question about something you would like to happen in your life. Leave the rest of the paper blank with the pen on top of it beside your bed. Your soul will not be able to resist giving you something during the night to write on it.

As soon as you wake up, before you even put your foot on the floor – write whatever comes to your mind. Make some notes about the ideas and dreams you were given.

It is very easy to lose these ideas if you do another activity, even running to the bathroom or making a quick cup of tea. As you have your morning shower think some more about what you wrote on the paper. Some more ideas might come to you. Quickly add them to you piece of paper.

Do this for a number of nights and see what your dreams are telling you. The dream could be literal but it could also be symbolic. You will need to consider which it is. Dreams can be more fantastic than everyday life.

Your dream may include a visit from a passed loved one. Consider if they gave you good council in their life time.

Sometimes the dream is about something in the future which may not be meaningful until you get there.

How did you feel when you woke up?

Dreams can inspire you, alert you to a future potential danger or just be full of love, support and information.

You will need to consider the dream to know what it is saying to you. Then think about;

What action should you take to honour the dreams you are having?

It could be you need to research something to understand the full meaning of the dream. You might be asked to take a small step forward to your ideal life before more dreams arrive to guide you on the next steps. Having clarity on what you want out of your life, helps the universe to bring it to you. Being able to manifest is a good skill to have. This simple process can help it.

To enjoy your life to the full, it is important to take some steps, no matter how small they are, to achieving your dreams.

This post is dedicated to those struggling to follow their dreams and to find joy.