This time of year can often feel chaotic and stressful, but it doesn’t have to be! Remember to take a moment (or three) to yourself, breathe deeply, and ground yourself. Try some of these FREE simple practises which take only minutes.
The approach to Christmas can be a challenging time. Women are often the main organiser of school costumes for nativities, other social events, presents, and the food preparation for the day. Of course, this is on top of normal daily activities. It is not a wonder many women are tense over the pre-Christmas period.
Do you recognise the scenario?
Lovely as Christmas can be, it takes a lot of work to make it a success. Often all of those preparations are not recognised. Others may say
How hard can it be, its only one day!
Whenever anyone speaks of love, they are often referring to romantic love between two people. I believe that love is infinite and can come in many forms. If romantic love was the only form of love, it would be quite exclusive and in limited quantities. It would be a hard world with only this type of love available to give and receive.
Fortunately for us love comes in many forms – parental, family, friends, pets, yourself. All of the important people in your life are available for you to love. In my view love is infinite and the more of it in your life, the richer it will be. Some people believe that you cannot possibly love a step or adopted child as much as a biological child. I disagree with this view. I think the choice is yours to decide how much you open your heart to love a person.
Love yourself. Many people ask me what this truly is. Lots of people don’t really love and respect themselves. This means taking care of your body, emotions and mind. You don’t need romantic love to feel loved. You can love yourself, such as giving yourself a treat at the end of a hard week. It need not be something big. It could be as simple as a beautiful coffee with your feet up on the sofa. Women in particular are not always good at loving themselves. Culturally they are often raised to give rather than to receive – caring for children or aging parents as an example. In a fast moving world, each of us need not to loose sight of ourselves. You need to remember to honour and love yourself. It is a key form of love.
Love is an emotion you can feel in your heart which I assume is why so many pictures of love use a heart to depict it. If you focus on your heart and think of someone you love, you will most likely get a feeling in your heart.
Love comes in many shapes. It can come in an act of kindness such as making someone a cup of tea for someone when they arrive home from work tired. An act done with love, rather than resentment or annoyance, has a different quality.
Love is a powerful energy with the ability to transform. Where there is a difficult situation with conflict and anger, you can wish love on it and it will sooth the situation. Love is a healing energy which has the capacity for enabling significant change. The situation can be a personal one or a national or global one. Given the tensions in our world today, any love you offer is very worthwhile. You do not need romantic love to experience love.
The power of payer, I believe, is an example of the potential change love being placed on a person or situation can bring about. Give ‘wishing love’ a try. You need to wish love without expectation of the outcome. It is the receivers right to choose whether to accept it.
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The festive season is meant to be a time of joy – being with loved ones, a rest from work or studying, giving and receiving gifts.
The reality is often far removed from the intention. Experiences can range from too many people in the house with tensions between the generations or individuals, to someone on their own feeling left out and extremely lonely.
The preparations for gatherings and gifts can be onerous taking the joy from the occasion.
If you are experiencing feelings of being overwhelmed, financial stress or dread of the December festivities, it is time to take a step back and evaluate what you want this time to bring for you and your loved ones.
Gifts can come in many forms. They do not have to be lavish expensive ones. The key is to keep them simple. Gifts can be a treat, something you make yourself or a simple kindness.
As a widow my children did not have an adult that could help them with their presents, so they often made them. My daughter loved to cook and often made we sweets and my son made me a card I could cash in for a chore. How imaginative, I valued these simple presents more than expensive presents provided by a partner on the child’s behalf. My children had thought about me and made an effort to provide me with a gift under the Christmas tree. I celebrated they had learnt to give as well as to receive.
Christmas Day Challenge – for those of you with a busy day, try to start it with a few calm moments for yourself, also think about giving a relative or friend a ring if you think they may be on their own. For those of you having a quiet Christmas, be kind to yourself and love yourself. Cook yourself some food you like and give yourself some treats.
Everybody’s Christmas is different. We make Christmas stressful for ourselves. Find calmness during the Christmas festival. Keep your gifts simple and find some quiet time during a hectic day. Remember those who may be on their own. If you have a quiet Christmas, love yourself and give yourself some treats.
Try to find a way that brings you some joy in the day.
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Traditionally you might give yourself some New Year resolutions on what you are going to do differently in the up coming year. Equally traditionally most people don’t keep to their resolutions beyond the end of January.
How can I choose resolutions which I am more likely to live up to?
You are guided not to rush your decision. They aren’t to be chosen quickly on New Year’s Eve as you welcome the New Year in. Quick decisions often lead to inappropriate or unattainable resolutions.
December is a good month to review your life over the last year. Things to consider might be:
These are not questions you can answer truthfully in two seconds. Give yourself some time to reflect, in a situation where you have time and space to yourself.
My life is so busy, I don’t have time for endless reflection!
Everybody can make time if they really want to. As a busy single mum of two children and a responsible job, my best time for reflection was when I tackled a huge pile of ironing. My mind was busy with ironing so the clothes and I didn’t get burnt. But another part of me was connecting with my guide on how I could improve my life in the coming year.
The guidance was to:
Life is a gift and these two significant choices honour this.
How can I make my resolutions worthwhile and enhance my life?
The quality of your life and how you feel about it often comes down to your behaviour and how the relationships in your life are working.
A challenging relationship does not mean it is a bad one. A challenging person can be your greatest teacher. They can be offering you an opportunity to learn something.
Look at your relationships and consciously choose those which in the Next Year you want to put more time and energy into them. If you learn a life lesson, a challenging relationship usually improves. Some under nourished relationships just grow beautifully when you give them more energy.
Personal growth aids you finding and following your life purpose.
As a psychic medium, I might reply – well it’s obvious, we go back to Spirit from whence we came.
But is it obvious?
My husband is a scientist and he always tells me that energy cannot be destroyed. It can change shape and appearance but it doesn’t become void. His example is H2O. With more energy in it, it is steam. With less energy it is water and with even less energy it is ice.
Can this analogy apply to us?
With little energy in us, we are on the Physical Plane in a dense body. But we always have that eternal spark of spirit within us but perhaps it doesn’t shine brightly yet.
When our physical body dies and as we pass, we go to the Astral Plane. We are not in a physical body but an astral one. It has more energy and can change shape so we can be youthful again in the prime of our life. The environment around us is familiar. We meet our loved ones on arrival and can hug and kiss. Isn’t that wonderful.
The scenery around us is familiar too but not exactually the same. We can think it into what we want it to be. A great example a colleague gave me was a soul who built himself a wonderful golf course with sections of it from golf courses all around the world. It was literally the golf course of his dreams. He played there happily until at some point he became bored and then he was ready to move on and learn new things.
He learnt many things from a great teacher. But at some point, he started to see the energy within his teacher’s body. It was like the body was a mask and he realised you don’t need an astral body to be alive. You are able to live in an energy body and experience many wonderful things. He was now ready to move onto the next level.
Can you talk to people who have passed and can loved ones in Spirit talk to us?
We all have the ability to connect with our loved ones in Spirit but it can take some practice. This is why many people use a medium to help with the messages.
My loved ones come to me in dreams but I can’t remember all that they say. What can I do?
Active Dreaming while you are awake is a good technique enabling you to be conscious as you dream. You can also set an intention on who you would like to meet with. The technique has its roots in shamanic practices but has been updated to be more acceptable for people today.
Is there an easy way to appreciate what the After Life might be like?
There is an old but
good film called Defending Your Life
How do we achieve peace in the Ukraine and Gaza?
In improving the way humanity chooses to live, I have always felt it will be a bottom-up evolution with the masses deciding what is the right way to live, forcing our national leaders to change the way they behave.
However, there is nothing stronger than the anger of one nation on another nation. We are seeing this in Gaza/Israel and Russia/Ukraine. In these circumstances I feel it will take a special sort of leader(s) to achieve peace.
To achieve lasting peace, it will be necessary for the waring nations to find the Middle Path between opposite views that both sides can live with.
The Middle Path is very hard to determine. In a war scenario there is a very fine line between courage and cruelty.
Heart breaking stories have been reported on families broken and killed in their homes by the Hamas raid into Israel. Yet the bombing on Gaza is equally affecting families.
My belief it takes a good and strong, heart led leader(s) to determine the place between courage and cruelty. Is the action of a nation at war justice or revenge? This pivotal middle point needs to be determined whether it is in a war situation or everyday life or business life.
A good leader must be sensitive to the boundary between justice and revenge in all the decisions they are making.
To be able to do this effectively, the leader needs to be incorruptible, not upset by slander nor desire riches or power from their actions. He/she needs to be able to sense and know what is the right action and to be the healer of human hearts. I believe;
A strong leader is connected to their intuition and can hear their guidance from Spirit.