The approach to Christmas can be a challenging time. Not only is it a busy time for the person preparing the Christmas Day celebrations, but tension can run in families where couples do not agree on the style of celebrations. Do you recognise the scenario?
Lets look at some tips for the man of the house…..
Tip #1 Remember your partner is doing their best to make Christmas a joyous and happy time for all. A little encouragement can go a long way.
Tip #2 Rather than complain about the amount of money being spent, try to find some alternative treats or better still make or cook some.
Tip #3 Try not to be grumpy if the treats you want are not the same as those your loved ones want. Flexibility at least for Christmas Day will bring family harmony.
Apologies for these suggestions to the men who are encouraging, relaxed about the money being spent and flexible with doing what the rest of the family wants on Christmas Day……
3 tips tomorrow for women on surviving Christmas.
Just looking at this picture makes me feel good. You can feel the joy of this young man having fun in the shower.
Some tips on finding your personal happiness;
One small positive thought when you wake-upcan change how you feel for your entire day. What a great way to start your day
Tell yourself;Today I refuse to stress myself out over things I cannot controlor change. Let them go and enjoy the things in your life you can control. Make sure they are really what you want in your life.
The best things in life are free: hugs, smiles, friends, kisses, family, sleep, love, laughter and good memories. Put plenty of them in your day
Happiness can be as simple as; meeting an old friend after a long time and feeling that nothing has changed.
I am stronger having learnt from my mistakes. Happier because I have known sadness and learnt how to improve how I feel on the inside.
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Balance in all you do is a key driver for enjoying your life. Many ask,
“How do I balance my work and home lives?”
Many of us struggle with this throughout our lives. Even in retirement, with the increasing trend of grandparents looking after the children of their working off-spring, balance can be a challenge.
I talked with my soul for many years before I realised who it was.
Throughout a life threatening childhood illness, he was always there comforting and encouraging me. He held my hand through the dark of the night when I was in pain.
In adulthood I was grateful to realise who he is, my best friend and my soul. He is the spark of divinity within me and brings me calmness, harmony and wisdom. We will always be together and I will go wherever he does. White Cloud, my light in the darkness shinning the way.
You may be experiencing the relentless pace of business or the rigours of running a family life or perhaps both!
Stress resides not in the mind but in the nervous system. Our ‘fight or flight’ response raises our cortisol level causing the sympathetic nervous system to activate. Our bodies are designed for a raised cortisol level but only in short bursts to aid our survival. However in our modern ‘always on the go’ life style, many people live with chronic raised cortisol levels leading to slow digestion, sleep disruption and other side effects.
Rest and relaxation reduces our cortisol level. But the question is;
How do you maintain an appropriate cortisol level once you are back at work?
Taking a break of not less than 15 minutes has a big impact on your cortisol level. These breaks can and should be simple such as a walk, a coffee and a magazine, sitting in a park, taking a bath, listening to some music. All of these breaks should be discrete and separate. There is little value in a break where you spend the entire time worrying about a problem.
The aim of the break is to slow the mind, for calmness to arrive which then allows the body to relax. 15 minutes is all it takes. Try to decide where and how in your day you would get the most value from it.
Your concentration will improve which will increase your effectiveness and efficiency at work, well worth the 15 minutes.
Be kind to yourself – learn to relax
Alison Wem – life coach, author and leadership consultant, MBCS CITP, former Business Transformation Director, IT Director, Programme Director who led major transformation programmes for corporate and multi-national organisations such as Amey PLC, Christies. News UK.
Alison is married with five grown-up children. Many of the techniques in her ‘leading yourself’ coaching and courses are based on her life experiences in her professional and family life. She retains a calmness and clarity enabling her to assess the right things to do.
