How would you rate your attractiveness?

How would you rate your attractiveness?

Some say beauty is in the eye of the beholder.  However I believe beauty is not about the shape of your nose or any other physical part of you.  How you are inside is reflected in your face.  Unwittingly this is what people see and use to decide if they are attracted to you.

Happiness radiates out from a person and others are attracted to them as they enjoy basking in their happiness.

Likewise people can see and feel anger in you.  It feels heavy and makes people feel uncomfortable so they avoid you. read more

Flowers bring you their gift of healing

Flowers bring you their gift of healing

This time of year beautiful flowers arrive bringing their healing energy.  No matter where you live you can nurture a flower.  It may be in a pot on your windowsill, an allotment or a garden, but for me flowers are a must in my life.

Even if you are extremely busy, spare a few moments each day to nurture your flower and you will receive the gift of calmness, a greater connection to the universe and a feeling of peace.  What better tonic could you ask for. read more

Challenges: 1 step to making them easier

Challenges: 1 step to making them easier

Challenges arrive in your life to provide you with opportunities to learn and grow.  Through them you can learn important life lessons such as improving your communication, overcoming jealous love or learning to receive as well as to give.  However when faced with a new challenge you may feel daunted.  Know the feeling?

Sometimes the same challenge keeps appearing in your life.  Do you find that frustrating?  This will keep happening until you learn your life lesson and manage it better. read more

Happiness: 4 thoughts for the weekend

Happiness is on the inside

Just looking at this picture makes me feel good.  Some thoughts on finding your personal happiness;

  • I am stronger having learnt from my mistakes.  Happier because I have known sadness and learnt how to improve how I feel on the inside.  Happiness can be as simple as meeting an old friend after a long time and feeling that nothing has changed.
  • The best things in life are free: hugs, smiles, friends, kisses, family, sleep, love, laughter and good memories
  • Today I refuse to stress myself out over things I cannot control or change.
  • One small positive thought when you wake-up can change how you feel for your entire day.

It is within your control to choose happiness.  Me, I want to be the pink person!

“The only things you take with you when you leave this world are things you’ve packed inside your heart”

Susan Cole

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Women: do they make good coaches?

When I started my career in IT, I was often the only woman on the team.  What I observed was that men operated differently and I had to learn to adapt to a new set of team social rules.  In my experience men are;

  • much more direct
  • may even shout at you when irritated
  • not hold a grudge afterwards.

Having a mentor to help with this learning became an imperative for me and was enormously beneficial.

If like me you are in the second half of your career, you may have ruminated on how you operate in the workplace.  Meeting up with a former manager from my youth, he reminded me how when I first worked for him I did not speak up in a group situation, even when he knew I had some good ideas.  This is not an uncommon trait in a woman at work. read more

Your soul map: 2 ways to design your soul map

Some people like to take their template and jump straight in with colouring.  Others like to consider the template and where the important people in their life should sit within it before they start to colour.  The choice of approach is yours.

If you decide to take the time to consider the layout of your soul map, the questions you might want to ask yourself are;

  • Who are the important people in my life?
  • Where would I place an individual on my soul map?
  • What are the relationships between individuals?
  • Do they have an important relationship with me?
  • Is a life lesson being learnt?
  • Who is helping with the life lesson?
  • Is there a natural grouping of individuals e.g. grandfather and grandson, cousins who always gather together at family functions? If so place them together in your soul map.

Often life lessons show themselves as repeated challenges.  For me my life lesson was about defining and maintaining my personal boundaries.  Before I realised this I had a series of very challenging managers, each getting progressively worse.  I really wondered what I had done to deserve them.  When I realised that they were helping me to learn a life lesson, I approached the situation differently and managed it much better.  My next two managers were wonderful so I must have gone someway to learning my lesson. read more