Discussions on what our emotions are and how they connect us to each other. We can send emotion energy such as love and we can feel and receive it also.
Time to pause and enjoy the sun-set at the end of a busy day.
A moment of reflection sets you up for your evening activities.
Bring inner peace and harmony into your life. Amazingly you will find many of your challenges in the outer world ease. It can be basic everyday things like handling a situation where your children are fighting one another, across a spectrum of challenges to dealing with life feeling alone.
In that place of calmness within you will find the guidance, love and strength to help you to find a way through your challenges.read more
Loss comes in many forms. A sense of loss is felt when you no longer have a person you love in your life or something such as a job, business or a home. The cause of the loss is varied such as death, a breakup, redundancy, a failed mortgage, but the outcome, a horrible feeling that strikes right at your heart, is the same.
For me loss and fear feel very similar. I lost my husband through an unexpected death in my 40s and experienced real fear from a very public failure of a business project I was leading in my 50s. Both had an enormous impact on my life and my security.
Loss and fear strike right at your heart as if someone has stabbed you.
How do you recover from such a strong emotion it affects you physically? You can’t make the loss go away. It is what it is.
Allow yourself to feel the pain and then let it go. It is not healthy to hold onto the pain as it will ultimately affect your body. In many cultures, it is encouraged to wail – a loud cry of pain, grief, or anger. All of these emotions come with loss and get muddled up together. Wailing is part of the process of letting go. In western cultures, it is not so condoned in modern times. But you can wail in private.
After my husband died, I use to wail in my bathroom late at night with a towel stuffed in my mouth so my children couldn’t hear me.
I needed the release of letting the pain out. Visualise your pain coming out of your body and floating away on a little white cloud. Give it to Mother Earth to deal with so nobody else absorbs your pain.
To help you get up in the morning and put one foot in front of the other – don’t look too far ahead.read more
When life is really challenging, sometimes we can feel really alone. Typically, this is at times of change. Most commonly this is as a result of one of the three Ds – divorce, debt and death. Sadly, more than one of these can happen at the same time.
How do you cope when you feel very alone with a big challenge, like one of the 3 Ds?
Your greatest friend and guide at times like this is your soul. Many people don’t realise they are in contact with their soul. I spoke to mine for years not realising who he was.
Your soul contacts you through your intuitionread more
When I was growing up, I used to play with a small group of girls who lived nearby. Generally, we all got on and we played happily together. After the long summer holidays together, perhaps we had spent too much time together and one of us would say or do something unkind.
When I used to go running to my mum upset, she did not say – oh you poor thing. Instead, she used to ask me to imagine how that person must feel inside to be so unkind. I should feel grateful that I didn’t feel like that.
A little kindness can go a long way.
The pain from unkindness can be intense. It doesn’t remain in childhood with friendship upsets. Unkindness can appear in adult life, often when you least expect it and sometimes from those closest to you such as a partner. The pain can go straight to your heart and make you feel wretched. When you feel like that, it is really hard to step back and not give some unkind response aimed to hurt. But in doing this, the only person you really hurt is yourself. If you are trying to live by strong life values, being unkind is not one of them.
When someone is unkind to you, being unkind to them back is not the right response.
The best way to counter unkindness is to show kindness. It may not be a big thing but a thoughtful, gentle kindness. In being kind to the other person, you are honouring yourself and being kind to yourself too.
We have all been unkind sometime, often through thoughtlessness rather than malicious intent. It takes consideration to use kind words, kind words can be healing, loving and inspiring.
Kindness is such a good contribution to make to this world of ours.
Kindness brings harmony and love to human relationships and living. When kindness is abundant in a relationship, that relationship is often joyful. Living a life surrounded by kindness is a good life.
This post is dedicated to those who try to practice kind words and acts of kindness.
Pride is the feeling you get of pleasure or satisfaction when you or someone you love has achieved something. It is perhaps that sense of pride when your child has had the courage to stand-up in front of the school and read a poem. You know how challenging that is to your child but they succeeded in doing it. I can see you clapping your hands with a big smile on your face.
With a positive connotation, pride is a sense of contentment or happiness towards your own life choices and actions or those of someone you are close to you.
Pride can actually help to move you forwards towards your goals and towards better behaviour. For example, if you take pride in yourself, you might not allow someone to speak unkindly to you.
Pride can become more negative if someone is overly proud. An example is of being too proud of your looks. You might do anything to look good and not see that what is inside you shines out more than your looks.
Is pride a good thing?
It is good when it helps you to achieve something which makes you a better person. Your actions can inspire others to try too. But as in all things, it is about judgement on how far to take it. If you start to do things just to gain praise from others, making yourself feel good at someone else’s expense, pride turns negative.
Contrary to popular belief, there is enough abundance for it to go round all of us. Working together with others to achieve the best for all of you, is a good thing to be proud of. When I speak of abundance many people think of cash. In this context I regard abundance as all of the people and things you need to be happy. It is not confined to cash and could be as simple as someone taking the time to have a coffee with you and to smile and chat.
I would be very proud of someone who gave their time for another person to feel happiness. Time seems to be in such short supply in this busy world.
All of us have someone or something that challenges us in our life. We came into a life to learn and these challenges are meant to stretch us and help us to learn. Life is full of ups and downs. But it is always important to remember life is a gift for living and enjoying.
Sometimes the stetch for a learning can feel excessive to the point where you can feel quite down. We have all been there, such as parental disapproval, a lover walking away, a job lost or a sick child. But the key question is;
How do you pick yourself up and get back into the flow of life and experiencing joy?
The simple answer is little step by little step. When you are in a difficult place, big change is not easy or usually successful. So be kind to yourself and make small changes in your life that make it feel better to you. It doesn’t need to cost money and often includes allowing yourself to enjoy small pleasures like going for a walk, making something good to eat, a long bath or time to read or pursue a hobby. People often under rate the value of these small things to how you feel about your life. Without them…
Life feels like work, work and yet more work.
These small pleasures bring balance to your liferead more
You came into this life to learn and to enjoy the gift of life. Someone being unkind to you can feel like it disrupts this. We learn through challenges but sometimes an unkindness, particularly if it’s from someone close to you or that you love, seems to double how hard it feels.
The experience of unkindness is not the lesson.
No one wants you to experience pain.
The learning comes from how you choose to respond to the unkindness.
Your response can reflect in how you behave with others, but equally important is how do you behave to yourself. Do you allow the unkindness to strike at your heart and to unduly affect your energy and well-being?
Of course, you should consider what the other person did or said to you. Try to be clear on;
was there an element of truth in what they said or did from which you can learn, but it was put across clumsily or cruelly?
Or, was it a plain old-fashioned unkindness driven perhaps by jealousy, envy or any other negative emotion?
Whichever basis the unkindness came from, with this knowledge you can act more wisely with yourself. In both scenarios you will need to comfort and nurture yourself. But the learning will be different depending on the scenario.
If there was an element of truth in the unkindness,read more
Allow yourself to feel the pain and then let it go. It is not healthy to hold onto the pain as it will ultimately affect your body. In many cultures, it is encouraged to wail – a loud cry of pain, grief, or anger. All of these emotions come with loss and get muddled up together. Wailing is part of the process of letting go. In western cultures, it is not so condoned in modern times. But you can wail in private.
Your soul contacts you through your intuition
Kindness brings harmony and love to human relationships and living. When kindness is abundant in a relationship, that relationship is often joyful. Living a life surrounded by kindness is a good life.
These small pleasures bring balance to your life