Life Lessons

Articles and views on the life lessons or skills we may be learning. Opportunities to learn our lessons are repeatedly presented to us in the form of people and situations. Once a lesson is learnt these learning opportunities are no longer presented. Analyzing our life to date helps us to understand the particular lessons we may be learning.

Rumi’s Reflections: Alison Wem’s Journal – Day 14

It’s your road and your road alone.

Others may walk it with you, but no

one can walk it for you.

Jalal al-Din Rumi

My life is my own – who I choose to be friends with, to love and how I want to just ‘be’ in this life of mine.

Of course there have been and will continue to be bumps on my road. But it is my choice how I react to and handle those bumps.

Some bumps I find harder than others, especially when I loose someone. But I am grateful for the time I have had with them and the chance to give and receive their love. read more

By Alison Wem, ago

Have you been touched by one of the 3Ds: divorce, death, debt?

January is the prime time in the year for having to face one of the 3Ds – divorce, death and debt. After the extended festive period many couples realise their relationship has run its course. Or the cold weather takes a few people to the After Life. Or significant debt catches up with people who have over extended themselves and Christmas is the final straw that breaks the camels back.

Perhaps you have hit one of life’s 3 Ds – death, divorce/separation, debt. All of these are big life changing moments. You realise life will never be quite the same again. How do you handle such a moment and where do you find the strength to move forwards? read more

By Alison Wem, ago

Happy wishing for your coming year

Now is the time between Christmas and the start of 2024 to reflect.

What did you experience in 2023 and what would you like to bring in for you and your loved ones for 2024?

Think about the things that went well for you in the last year. For me 2023 was a mixed year. I made some good progress as an author publishing my third book and continued to grow the number of people who seek my assistance with personal and spiritual growth.  My greatest delight was the arrival of my granddaughter. As the saying goes read more

By Alison Wem, ago

Are you busy?: take a few moments to reflect

Today is expected to be a busy day at the shops as everyone gets those last items they need for Christmas. Or perhaps for some it is their first item!

In our affluent society of Christmas celebrations, present giving and receiving, Christmas trees and decorations – whether you are a Christian, Atheist, Druid, Muslim or any other faith, do you take time to reflect and express thanks for all in your life?

December is a good month to say ‘thank you’ to your loved ones for being in your life and for all they do with and for you. read more

By Alison Wem, ago

Women: the secrets of surviving Christmas

The approach to Christmas can be a challenging time. Women are often the main organiser of school costumes for nativities, other social events, presents, and the food preparation for the day. Of course, this is on top of normal daily activities. It is not a wonder many women are tense over the pre-Christmas period.

Do you recognise the scenario?

Lovely as Christmas can be, it takes a lot of work to make it a success. Often all of those preparations are not recognised. Others may say

How hard can it be, its only one day! read more

By Alison Wem, ago

How do you choose the best New Year resolutions?

We have entered the last month of the year!

Traditionally you might give yourself some New Year resolutions on what you are going to do differently in the up coming year. Equally traditionally most people don’t keep to their resolutions beyond the end of January.

How can I choose resolutions which I am more likely to live up to?

You are guided not to rush your decision. They aren’t to be chosen quickly on New Year’s Eve as you welcome the New Year in. Quick decisions often lead to inappropriate or unattainable resolutions.

December is a good month to review your life over the last year. Things to consider might be:

  • What has gone well this year and why?
  • What could I have done better?
  • What does my heart desire?

These are not questions you can answer truthfully in two seconds. Give yourself some time to reflect, in a situation where you have time and space to yourself.

My life is so busy, I don’t have time for endless reflection!

Everybody can make time if they really want to. As a busy single mum of two children and a responsible job, my best time for reflection was when I tackled a huge pile of ironing. My mind was busy with ironing so the clothes and I didn’t get burnt. But another part of me was connecting with my guide on how I could improve my life in the coming year.

The guidance was to:

  • Choose things and people who make you happy.
  • Choose one thing which aids your personal development.

Life is a gift and these two significant choices honour this.

How can I make my resolutions worthwhile and enhance my life?

The quality of your life and how you feel about it often comes down to your behaviour and how the relationships in your life are working.

A challenging relationship does not mean it is a bad one. A challenging person can be your greatest teacher. They can be offering you an opportunity to learn something.

Look at your relationships and consciously choose those which in the Next Year you want to put more time and energy into them. If you learn a life lesson, a challenging relationship usually improves. Some under nourished relationships just grow beautifully when you give them more energy.

Personal growth aids you finding and following your life purpose. read more

By Alison Wem, ago

War: How do we find peace?

I am writing this article to you on Armistice Day when at the eleventh hour on the eleventh day of the eleventh month in 1918, the peace treaty was signed ending World War I.

How do we achieve peace in the Ukraine and Gaza?

In improving the way humanity chooses to live, I have always felt it will be a bottom-up evolution with the masses deciding what is the right way to live, forcing our national leaders to change the way they behave.

However, there is nothing stronger than the anger of one nation on another nation. We are seeing this in Gaza/Israel and Russia/Ukraine. In these circumstances I feel it will take a special sort of leader(s) to achieve peace.

To achieve lasting peace, it will be necessary for the waring nations to find the Middle Path between opposite views that both sides can live with.

The Middle Path is very hard to determine. In a war scenario there is a very fine line between courage and cruelty.

Heart breaking stories have been reported on families broken and killed in their homes by the Hamas raid into Israel. Yet the bombing on Gaza is equally affecting families.

My belief it takes a good and strong, heart led leader(s) to determine the place between courage and cruelty. Is the action of a nation at war justice or revenge? This pivotal middle point needs to be determined whether it is in a war situation or everyday life or business life.

A good leader must be sensitive to the boundary between justice and revenge in all the decisions they are making.

To be able to do this effectively, the leader needs to be incorruptible, not upset by slander nor desire riches or power from their actions. He/she needs to be able to sense and know what is the right action and to be the healer of human hearts. I believe;

A strong leader is connected to their intuition and can hear their guidance from Spirit. read more

By Alison Wem, ago