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Women: the secrets of surviving Christmas

The approach to Christmas can be a challenging time. Women are often the main organiser of school costumes for nativities, other social events, presents, and the food preparation for the day. Of course, this is on top of normal daily activities. It is not a wonder many women are tense over the pre-Christmas period.

Do you recognise the scenario?

Lovely as Christmas can be, it takes a lot of work to make it a success. Often all of those preparations are not recognised. Others may say

How hard can it be, its only one day! read more

By Alison Wem, ago

Are you experiencing the full potential of love?

Love comes in many shapes and forms

Whenever anyone speaks of love, they are often referring to romantic love between two people. I believe that love is infinite and can come in many forms. If romantic love was the only form of love, it would be quite exclusive and in limited quantities. It would be a hard world with only this type of love available to give and receive.

Fortunately for us love comes in many forms – parental, family, friends, pets, yourself. All of the important people in your life are available for you to love. In my view love is infinite and the more of it in your life, the richer it will be. Some people believe that you cannot possibly love a step or adopted child as much as a biological child. I disagree with this view. I think the choice is yours to decide how much you open your heart to love a person.

Love yourself. Many people ask me what this truly is. Lots of people don’t really love and respect themselves. This means taking care of your body, emotions and mind. You don’t need romantic love to feel loved. You can love yourself, such as giving yourself a treat at the end of a hard week. It need not be something big. It could be as simple as a beautiful coffee with your feet up on the sofa. Women in particular are not always good at loving themselves. Culturally they are often raised to give rather than to receive – caring for children or aging parents as an example. In a fast moving world, each of us need not to loose sight of ourselves. You need to remember to honour and love yourself. It is a key form of love.

Love is an emotion you can feel in your heart which I assume is why so many pictures of love use a heart to depict it. If you focus on your heart and think of someone you love, you will most likely get a feeling in your heart.

Love comes in many shapes. It can come in an act of kindness such as making someone a cup of tea for someone when they arrive home from work tired. An act done with love, rather than resentment or annoyance, has a different quality.

Love is a powerful energy with the ability to transform. Where there is a difficult situation with conflict and anger, you can wish love on it and it will sooth the situation. Love is a healing energy which has the capacity for enabling significant change. The situation can be a personal one or a national or global one. Given the tensions in our world today, any love you offer is very worthwhile. You do not need romantic love to experience love.

The power of payer, I believe, is an example of the potential change love being placed on a person or situation can bring about. Give ‘wishing love’ a try. You need to wish love without expectation of the outcome. It is the receivers right to choose whether to accept it.

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By Alison Wem, ago

Remaining calm through the festive season

The festive season is meant to be a time of joy – being with loved ones, a rest from work or studying, giving and receiving gifts.

The reality is often far removed from the intention. Experiences can range from too many people in the house with tensions between the generations or individuals, to someone on their own feeling left out and extremely lonely.

The preparations for gatherings and gifts can be onerous taking the joy from the occasion.

If you are experiencing feelings of being overwhelmed, financial stress or dread of the December festivities, it is time to take a step back and evaluate what you want this time to bring for you and your loved ones.

Gifts can come in many forms. They do not have to be lavish expensive ones. The key is to keep them simple. Gifts can be a treat, something you make yourself or a simple kindness.

As a widow my children did not have an adult that could help them with their presents, so they often made them.  My daughter loved to cook and often made we sweets and my son made me a card I could cash in for a chore. How imaginative, I valued these simple presents more than expensive presents provided by a partner on the child’s behalf. My children had thought about me and made an effort to provide me with a gift under the Christmas tree. I celebrated they had learnt to give as well as to receive.

Christmas Day Challenge – for those of you with a busy day, try to start it with a few calm moments for yourself, also think about giving a relative or friend a ring if you think they may be on their own.  For those of you having a quiet Christmas, be kind to yourself and love yourself.  Cook yourself some food you like and give yourself some treats.

Everybody’s Christmas is different. We make Christmas stressful for ourselves. Find calmness during the Christmas festival. Keep your gifts simple and find some quiet time during a hectic day. Remember those who may be on their own. If you have a quiet Christmas, love yourself and give yourself some treats.

Try to find a way that brings you some joy in the day. 

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By Alison Wem, ago

How do you choose the best New Year resolutions?

We have entered the last month of the year!

Traditionally you might give yourself some New Year resolutions on what you are going to do differently in the up coming year. Equally traditionally most people don’t keep to their resolutions beyond the end of January.

How can I choose resolutions which I am more likely to live up to?

You are guided not to rush your decision. They aren’t to be chosen quickly on New Year’s Eve as you welcome the New Year in. Quick decisions often lead to inappropriate or unattainable resolutions.

December is a good month to review your life over the last year. Things to consider might be:

  • What has gone well this year and why?
  • What could I have done better?
  • What does my heart desire?

These are not questions you can answer truthfully in two seconds. Give yourself some time to reflect, in a situation where you have time and space to yourself.

My life is so busy, I don’t have time for endless reflection!

Everybody can make time if they really want to. As a busy single mum of two children and a responsible job, my best time for reflection was when I tackled a huge pile of ironing. My mind was busy with ironing so the clothes and I didn’t get burnt. But another part of me was connecting with my guide on how I could improve my life in the coming year.

The guidance was to:

  • Choose things and people who make you happy.
  • Choose one thing which aids your personal development.

Life is a gift and these two significant choices honour this.

How can I make my resolutions worthwhile and enhance my life?

The quality of your life and how you feel about it often comes down to your behaviour and how the relationships in your life are working.

A challenging relationship does not mean it is a bad one. A challenging person can be your greatest teacher. They can be offering you an opportunity to learn something.

Look at your relationships and consciously choose those which in the Next Year you want to put more time and energy into them. If you learn a life lesson, a challenging relationship usually improves. Some under nourished relationships just grow beautifully when you give them more energy.

Personal growth aids you finding and following your life purpose. read more

By Alison Wem, ago

War: How do we find peace?

I am writing this article to you on Armistice Day when at the eleventh hour on the eleventh day of the eleventh month in 1918, the peace treaty was signed ending World War I.

How do we achieve peace in the Ukraine and Gaza?

In improving the way humanity chooses to live, I have always felt it will be a bottom-up evolution with the masses deciding what is the right way to live, forcing our national leaders to change the way they behave.

However, there is nothing stronger than the anger of one nation on another nation. We are seeing this in Gaza/Israel and Russia/Ukraine. In these circumstances I feel it will take a special sort of leader(s) to achieve peace.

To achieve lasting peace, it will be necessary for the waring nations to find the Middle Path between opposite views that both sides can live with.

The Middle Path is very hard to determine. In a war scenario there is a very fine line between courage and cruelty.

Heart breaking stories have been reported on families broken and killed in their homes by the Hamas raid into Israel. Yet the bombing on Gaza is equally affecting families.

My belief it takes a good and strong, heart led leader(s) to determine the place between courage and cruelty. Is the action of a nation at war justice or revenge? This pivotal middle point needs to be determined whether it is in a war situation or everyday life or business life.

A good leader must be sensitive to the boundary between justice and revenge in all the decisions they are making.

To be able to do this effectively, the leader needs to be incorruptible, not upset by slander nor desire riches or power from their actions. He/she needs to be able to sense and know what is the right action and to be the healer of human hearts. I believe;

A strong leader is connected to their intuition and can hear their guidance from Spirit. read more

By Alison Wem, ago

Why is my life and those in it so difficult?

Life is a journey we all make whether it is consciously or unconsciously. While you may feel your life is out of control or more difficult than other people’s life, you have more control and influence over your life than perhaps you realise.

See your life as a train carriage and you are the conductor who decides who comes into your carriage. Of course, when you are young, you need people to take care of you. But as you grow, you gain strength as the conductor of your life.

The choices you make today will reflect the life you enjoy or perhaps endure tomorrow.

You choose the life you experience including the people in it. But you might say;

I was unexpectedly widowed. What control did I have over that life event?

You would be right to say you had no control over that event, but you do have control over how you respond to it. I purposefully say ‘respond’ as it is a much more considered action that ‘react’. If you loved your partner, you will feel sad and bereft. But you get to choose whether you stay that way for the rest of your life or you take steps to re-build your life.

I speak from experience as I was unexpectedly widowed in my 40s. For some time I was very sad and cried a lot. When people asked me my age, I even got that wrong and said I was a year older than I actually was. I think I felt old or perhaps I was just in shock.

It was my Mum who finally said;

It’s time for you to take control of your life. Agreed it is sad your husband passed, but do you want you children to grow up in an atmosphere of sadness and feeling alone? You need to own your life, know who you are and rebuild your life.

I remember feeling rather cross with my Mum, who was a widow herself. But on reflection, I knew she was right. I wanted laughter in my house and my children to feel it was a safe and happy place to be. I set out to work on myself and my life. Two years later I found new love and re-married. A whole new and refreshing chapter of my life opened up.

Widowhood is not the only challenging life event. There are many more such as loosing a child, divorce, redundancy, a business failing. In all of these types of events, it is about –

Owning your life and the challenges you find in it. Love yourself and re-build again. Find the courage within to make a course correction if you need to. read more

By Alison Wem, ago

Rumi’s Reflections: Alison Wem’s Journal – Day 13

I have been a seeker and I still am,

But I stopped asking the books and the stars.

I started listening to the teaching of my soul.

Jalal al-Din Rumi

We are much wiser than we often realise. By getting to know yourself better, you will meet your soul.

In the silence and peace of my inner landscape, I met my soul. I realised I had been talking with her for years but didn’t realise who she was. She has been a consistent companion in good times and bad. She is my greatest friend, objective rather than emotional and a wise and compassionate person. I need to listen to her more….

By Alison Wem, ago