How to Handle a Toxic Manager

Toxic managers can be challenging and also detrimental to your calmness and well-being. I know this from first hand experience. I was a senior executive successfully delivering a business change programme but I had the meanest manager I had ever experienced. He was a short New Yorker who loved to shout and belittle people. He did not respect that I lived in a different time zone from him and would call me late into my evening. Normally a confident person, my self-esteem and confidence hit rock bottom. It was a very unhappy period in my life. read more

Is work about more than money?

Life begins at the edge of your comfort zone. Listen to Alison Wem’s views on how work takes you there and what you can gain from it. Know it consciously and get the greatest benefit from it.

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Thank you so much Alison for this wonderful workshop and for sharing your knowledge. Outstanding!

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Alison has a deep understanding and has a wonderful helping nature.

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Brilliant! What a lovely way to spend a Saturday.

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If you have a sense of curiosity, this class opens your mind.

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Ever felt everything is going wrong? 3 tips to improve your life

Ever had a time when everything you do seems to go wrong?

I know I have, and often I have no knowledge why this should be. When the flow of life is not working for you, I have found you are either doing the wrong things or approaching life in the wrong way. One of my problems is that sometimes I just try too hard! When I do this I get too tired and make mistakes. They can be small mistakes but they can have a BIG impact – like how I have spoken to someone and then I lose their co-operation. I seem to make mountains which I then have to climb. I get so cross with myself. read more

Mindfulness: tips on how to maintain it at work

There is lots of dialogue about being mindful at work but what does this really mean?

For centuries mindfulness was only used in the domain of seekers and monks. However lately in companies around the world it is being used for Training & Development, relationship building and stress reduction.

What simple practices can you undertake to help you in the workplace?

We all need a good way of reminding you to stay in the present moment and be calm in the middle of a hectic, fast pace working day.

Thank you Kristin Fehrman for your practical suggestions.

Mindfulness at work

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Success Mindset

Guest article by Menaca Joji

We all, at one time or the other have wondered what the formula for Success is? In fact, many of us look for ways to achieve Success in one form or the other. What most of us fail to realise is the Power to Succeed is within us all along. None of us are born with fear of failure, but yet as we grow, we develop the fear of failure due to various reasons. We value others opinions and look for external validation in order to proceed with our journey.

 

As adults we see failures as stumble blocks rather than a stepping stone. All the successful inventors and leaders such as Thomas Edison and Walt Disney wouldn’t have been able to materialise their dreams if they stopped at failure. As a leader we need to be able to accept Course-correction but having the Vision clearly in our mind. One can explore various methods of action plans to achieve the goal. Once the most successful method is adapted, one needs to follow through and with persistency and focus.

Though Agility and Adaptability are crucial we need to evaluate and analyse the outcomes carefully before we decide to change course. Many of us spend our lives looking for the “key to success” like it’s hidden somewhere; like we’re going to find it and if we do, our entire lives will change.

The secret of success is to Have a clear Vision by looking inwards and finding your ‘WHY?’. Set a Goal for yourself. Consistently plan and take actions to align with your Vision. Evaluate your outcomes and do Course-correction if needed. Be ready to adapt to change and be forward thinking in your ideas.

Observe – carefully observe the trends which will impact the industry and in particular the organisation in the future. Always be forward thinking and ask wise questions such as what would happen if….? And how would we change our practices to adapt and excel to these changes.

Think Creatively- record and objectively analysis your observations. Learning what is happening in your industry. Be proactive instead of being reactive which will help to inform the critical steps you need to take. Continuously analyse the patterns of change and create an action plan to adapt to the change.

Change – In today’s environment, the only thing that is constant is change. Hence, we need to have a mindset ready to adapt to change to maximise our productivity. By managing ‘Unexpectedness’, we become more robust and ready for change. Agility is an indispensable trait for a Leader.

Challenge – No organisation can grow without taking calculated risks. Therefore, it is important to be able to conduct effect risk management. Every innovation will have some amount of risk attached to it. To limit the risk of challenging the status quo, we could research the business and social economic environments along with current and future trends. Knowledge is empowering when implementing change in our own business.

Elimination – Achieving change often comes with fear of failure leading to procrastination. It is important to eliminate indecision and inaction to achieve success. We need to consistently be able to create solutions to overcome any setbacks or problems the organisation faces. Although analysis is vital in business, over analysing creates its own pitfalls.

Adapt – In today’s business world, acquiring knowledge and new skills is essential to be able to sustain a professional career or business. Personal development to gain expertise in your chosen field along with the ability to adapt can eliminate self-doubt, enhance self-confidence and increase the chances of success. 

Empower – Empower team members and encourage a culture where each team member feels authorised to make the right decision for a client or the organisation at the time it is needed. Although the hierarchy in an organisation has its place, in the modern age each team member should have situational vigilance and the ability to make the right decisions after due consideration. The management framework should seek to develop the quality of the evaluation before a team member decides.

Questioning – As an organisation you should question the current business processes and assumptions. Question those based on past success models. It’s worth asking stakeholders for input and to brainstorm ideas with team members. This can create more forward-thinking business and management models along with leadership.

Growth – The priority of any organisation should be continuous growth. Growth is primarily achieved by diversifying (increasing the range of products and services) or by increasing the client base while still being effective and efficient. Innovation and creative thinking can aid growth. Your organisation’s future is created by the actions you take today. We are in a Global Village and we need to grow globally to succeed!

Act– Finding the why or purpose is crucial to any business. It helps you and the other team members to be motivated and empowered to act. It is important to have a vision and goal for the organisation.  Re-evaluating the set of missions to achieve the goal enables quick decision making and the ability to act.

Menaca Joji

Guest author Menaca Joji

After successfully practising dentistry for over 20 years and building a practice in London, she now advises dentists on their client skills and how to build a successful business.

Menaca would love to hear from you. She can be contacted at menaca.kaliyai@gmail.com