Do your friends and family think you are crazy?

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What is this mindfulness stuff? a mental state achieved by focusing awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations. Calmness and an inner peace arrives with this state.

How do you focus on the present moment? There are many techniques. Meditation is popular but a walk in the park, painting or colouring are good too.  I recommend painting a soul map as your brain responds to the symmetrical pattern.

You were once so different; perhaps your life values were different for example; career driven at all costs, you valued big houses and expensive cars, or perhaps you were too shy to do what you wanted to do with your life.  You felt happiness in some way eluded you.  You did not have a sense of satisfaction with your life.

What brought about your changes?  You asked yourself some of these questions and the answers made you decide to change how you were living your life.

  • who are the important people in your life and what is your relationship like with them?
  • do these relationships help you to learn something?
  • when did you last experience happiness and what caused it?
  • what makes you sad?
  • is there any pattern to when you experience happiness or sadness?
  • what values do you hold dear?
  • are you living your values?

So you made an honest evaluation of yourself and your life to date?  Perhaps you used the soul map approach suggested in Your Soul Family or you just looked at the highs and lows in your life to see what brought you the most and least satisfaction.

What did you conclude? You decided on what your life values are and you started to live by them.  You made choices in your life based on your values and what was important to you.

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Christmas is nearly here: feeling panicky?

Sadly preparation for Christmas can send many people into a panic. All those presents to find for the people most important to you in your life. How will you find something that brings joy, sends your love and shares some truths on life and living.

Don’t make it hard for yourself. Help is at hand. 

Here are a few inexpensive books that make great presents for those who are curious about life. Be the person to ignite your loved ones curiosity and help them to achieve a greater awareness of who they really are.

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Of course I would love it if you tried one of my books. One of my favourites is Secrets of Your Soul. There are lots of lovely little stories of past lives. They are easy to read and come with an illustration. A good read with some spiritual messages. If you hurry, there is still time to order it and get it delivered before Christmas.

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Clear Your Mind: A Practical Guide to Meditation for Men

Life can feel like a juggling act – work, relationships, responsibilities. It’s no wonder your mind might feel scattered or your focus lacking. Meditation is the tool you didn’t know you needed to cut through the noise and bring clarity to your day. And no, it’s not about sitting cross-legged in silence for hours. It’s practical, effective, and, best of all, easy to start.

Why Meditation?

Think of your mind like a muscle. If it’s constantly overworked without rest, it’s bound to lose strength. Meditation trains your mind to focus, helping you cut through distractions and approach tasks with clarity. It’s not about emptying your mind – it’s about learning to guide it where you want it to go.

Step 1: Keep It Simple

You don’t need incense or chants to meditate (unless you want to). Start small. Here’s a straightforward practice you can try:

  1. Find a quiet spot where you won’t be interrupted.
  2. Sit comfortably – on a chair, a couch, or the floor.
  3. Close your eyes and take a deep breath in through your nose. Hold it for a moment, then slowly exhale out through your mouth.
  4. Focus on your breath. Feel the air entering and leaving your body.

That’s it. Set a timer for 5 minutes to start. Gradually increase the time as it feels right.

As you increase your time, after five deep breaths return to normal breathing. Feel how the energy goes from your lungs down through your body and up to the crown of your head. Explore how your mind and body feels.

Even a few extra minutes can make a big difference.

Step 2: Handle Distractions Like a Pro

Your mind will wander – it’s natural. You’ll think about work deadlines, dinner plans, or that random thing you forgot to do last week. Please don’t beat yourself up over it. When you notice your mind drifting, gently bring it back to your breath. Over time, this “mental reset” becomes easier and spills over into your day-to-day life, helping you refocus on tasks more effectively.

Step 3: Add Purpose

If focusing on your breath feels too simple, try a mantra or visualisation. A mantra is a short repeated phrase, like “I am focused” or “I am calm.” Visualisation involves picturing a scene that brings you clarity, like standing on a mountain with a clear view.

Both practices can keep your mind engaged while reinforcing positive thoughts.

Step 4: Make It a Habit

The key to success? Consistency. Start by meditating at the same time every day – maybe first thing in the morning or during your lunch break. Think of it as part of your daily routine, like brushing your teeth. Apps like Headspace or Insight Timer can help guide you if you’re unsure where to start.

The Payoff
Meditation doesn’t take long to show results. After a few days, you might notice your mind feels sharper, tasks feel less overwhelming, and stress starts to fade. Over weeks and months, you’ll likely find you’re more present, productive, and at peace.

So why not give it a try? Just a few minutes a day can transform how you approach life’s challenges. Meditation isn’t just about sitting still—it’s about stepping into the world with focus, clarity, and confidence.

Start today. You’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain.

 

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Your Peaceful Place: Designing a Sacred Space at Home

Constant noise and distractions seem to be the norm of the 21st century. I really notice the difference when I return to London after being in the rural countryside. This has led me to believe creating a sacred space at home is essential for nurturing your spiritual well-being. Many women value a peaceful environment; a personal sanctuary can bring balance and inner calm. Whether you have an entire room or just a small corner, a sacred space is where you can retreat and recharge.

Here’s how to create your own sacred space to support your spiritual journey and promote inner peace.

Choose Your Space Wisely

You don’t need a large area, but the space should be somewhere you feel comfortable and undisturbed. A quiet corner in your bedroom, a nook by the window, or even a section of your garden can work perfectly. Focus on an area that feels safe, calm, and inviting.

Natural light can enhance the atmosphere, so choose a spot with soft lighting if possible. If not, use gentle artificial lighting to create a warm, peaceful ambiance.

Clear and Cleanse the Space

Start by decluttering your chosen area. An uncluttered space invites a clear, calm mind. Once the physical space is cleared, cleanse it energetically. You can use sage, palo santo, or incense to purify the air and set the tone for peace and healing. If you are unable to do this, you can clear a space energetically by clapping your hands.

While cleansing, set an intention for the space. Whether for inner peace, healing, or spiritual growth, your space will hold the energy you infuse into it.

Bring in Elements of Nature

Incorporating nature helps ground your space. You can add plants, crystals, seashells, or stones, anything that connects you to the earth. Each of these elements brings its own energy. Plants purify the air, while crystals can offer specific healing properties, depending on your needs.

Select items that resonate with you and create a sense of peace and harmony. I like to change these items with the seasons. The autumn has arrived in the UK. As the leaves on the trees change to wonderful colours, I will definitely be making use of them in my sacred space.

Create Comfort and Warmth

Comfort is vital in your sacred space. Add cushions, soft blankets, or a meditation pillow to create a cozy environment. Choose seating that fits how you intend to use the space, whether it’s for meditation, journaling, or quiet reflection.

Candles can also enhance the sense of warmth. Beeswax or essential oil-infused candles are ideal, and lighting one can mark the start of your sacred time.

Personalise Your Space

This is your sanctuary, so personalise it with items that are meaningful to you. Add spiritual symbols, personal mementos, or artwork that inspires and uplifts you. You might include a small altar with objects representing what you wish to invite into your life – peace, love, or clarity.

Use Your Space with Intention

The power of your sacred space comes from using it regularly. Whether for meditation, yoga, or simple moments of silence, make it a habit to retreat there daily. Set an intention each time you enter, aligning the space’s energy with your spiritual goals.

Creating a sacred space at home is a simple yet powerful way to nurture your inner peace. You’ll create a sanctuary that supports your spiritual well-being by choosing a space, cleansing it, adding natural elements, and using it intentionally.