Categories: Wisdom of a Mother

Fear: 2 steps to moving beyond fear

Fear of something is often worse than the doing of it

Throughout our lives we face challenges.  This is how we learn and grow.  However extreme challenges can bring fear which is a very paralyzing emotion.  It prevents us from feeling and acting naturally.  How do you step through fear and be yourself?

We have all felt fear at some time in our lives.  Perhaps it was of our first day at school, a new job, loss of a partner or being made redundant at work.  The anticipation leading up to the event is often the most fearful period.  Yet when the event happens you do mange to move through it and come out the other side.

Sometimes the fear is unfounded: school was not so bad, you found some new friends and a love of learning.  Sometimes you find something better: the job you lost you replace it with a better way of earning your living, a redundancy turned from a fear to an opportunity.  Sometimes you just learn to live with the event, like the passing of a loved one.  However in all of these scenarios, you do find that you can live afterwards.  It might not be the same life but you can establish a new life and find pleasure in it.

When you are in the grips of fear, it is hard to see anything beyond it.  So my advice would be to;

  • take a deep breath and look for the calmness within yourself.
  • in that calmness you will find the help and strength you need to step beyond the event you fear.

When faced with challenging people and situations, my mother always used to say;

“Take 3 deep breaths and ask for help.  It will calm you and then you will cope”

When I was little I did as my mother suggested and it worked.  I just accepted it as guidance a mother gives her child.

When I was a young person, I thought it must bring more oxygen to my brain and therefore enabled me to better think through the challenge and handle it more appropriately.

As an adult I have come to realise that taking deep breaths draws your guides and angels nearer to you.  Asking for help enables them to intervene on your behalf.  Guides can draw near but they can do so much more if you ask for their help.

You do not have to believe in the universal laws for them to work.  As a child it just worked for me.  However it is good to understand the universe you live in and know that you will be supported if you need it.

Dedicated to my mother and the wonderful two little boys in our family who represent the next generation arriving.

Alison Wem

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