How do I show myself love and compassion?

So often in our world the emphasises is on achievements. Loving yourself can feel like a radical act. Yet, self-love is the cornerstone of mental well-being and personal growth. But,

How do you love yourself?

For me, the key things to embrace are;

• Acknowledge your worth
• Practice self-care
• Set boundaries
• Embrace imperfection
• Celebrate your uniqueness.

The very first step in loving yourself is to acknowledge your value. It is not about your successes or failures but more about your inherent worth. Reflect on your strengths and weaknesses no matter how small you feel they may be. Sometimes being that person in the family who notices when someone needs a helping hand has enormous worth.

Don’t underate yourself.

Practicing self-care is about taking care of your physical, emotional, and mental health. Most of this is simple and basic such as ensuring you get enough sleep, eat nutritious food, and engage in regular physical activity.

Prioritise activities that bring you joy and relaxation.

Examples might include reading, gardening and spending time with those you love.

Loving yourself means respecting your own limits so you need to define your boundaries and hold them. Learn to say no to things that drain your energy or compromise your values. Surround yourself with people who uplift and support you. Setting healthy boundaries protects your well-being and fosters better relationships.

No-one is perfect. We all have imperfections so rather than berate yourself, accept that making mistakes is a natural part of life. When you make a mistake be kind to yourself as you would for a friend. Do remember….

It is alright to be work in progress.

There are things you can do to help you with self-love such as,

• Mindfulness
• Don’t listen to the negative inner talk
• Celebrate your uniqueness
• Forgive and be kind to yourself
• Get help if you need it.

These approaches to living your life help you to love yourself more easily.

Mindfulness helps you to feel your emotions and let them go, not to judge yourself and gives you strategies such as deep breathes to help you manage yourself. This will help you to increase your self-awareness and reduce stress.

Negative self-talk can seriously affect your self-esteem. Try to replace it with positive supportive messages. What would you say to a dear friend who is struggling? Say this to yourself. Overtime this wonderful inner kind person can help to transform your life.

You are a wonderful person so embrace what makes you unique. It is those things that make you who you are. Don’t compare yourself to others.

Your journey is yours alone and you get to decide the pace at which you want to go.

Holding onto past mistakes or regrets can hinder your ability to love yourself fully. Be kind to yourself;

Forgive your mistakes, learn and move forwards.

If all of this becomes overwhelming, know it’s alright to seek help whether it is from trusted and loving family, a friend or a professional. Talking is so good to help you gain perspective on your life, strengthen your self-love and to decide how to move forwards.

Loving yourself is a lifelong journey, not a destination.

Be patience, practice, and be persistent. You can cultivate a deeper sense of self-compassion. Know you are deserving of love, kindness, and respect—especially from yourself.