My mum used to say to me “Good manners cost nothing” and the same applies to kind words.
Kind words unlock even the most steely of hearts. Kind words convey caring. Even a person whose heart has been hurt will respond to the compassion found in kind words.
Every kind word spoken is a gift to the receiver but also to you the speaker.
Today look for opportunities to express kind words that are sincere, thoughtful and warm.
The holidays are a time for joy, connection, and celebration, but they can also bring up old wounds, unspoken grievances, and family tensions. It’s natural – bringing everyone together can create the perfect storm for misunderstandings or disagreements. But with a spiritual perspective, you can approach these moments gracefully and develop a sense of harmony for yourself and your loved ones. Here’s how:
Before your family gathering, take a moment to ground yourself. Light a candle, meditate, or say a prayer with the intention of fostering understanding and peace. Visualise the gathering as harmonious, with each family member feeling heard and valued. Your positive energy can ripple out, influencing the overall mood.
Conflicts often arise when people feel unheard or misunderstood. Instead of reacting defensively, try active listening. Take a deep breath, centre yourself, and listen to what’s being said without judgment. Reflect on what you hear to show you’re genuinely trying to understand, even if you disagree.
Remember that everyone carries their own burdens and wounds. Aunt Mary’s sharp comments might stem from her own insecurities or pain. Approach each interaction with compassion. A simple internal mantra like, “I choose understanding over anger,” can help keep your heart open and your spirit calm.
If tensions rise, excuse yourself for a moment to breathe and recalibrate. Step outside, connect with nature, or find a quiet corner to close your eyes and visualise releasing negativity. Even five minutes of calm can restore balance and help you approach challenges more clearly.
Amid the chaos, focus on the blessings. No matter how imperfect, a family gathering is an opportunity to connect, celebrate, and learn from each other. Gratitude shifts your perspective from what’s wrong to what’s right, creating a more uplifting experience for all.
If a conversation becomes too heated, it’s okay to steer it elsewhere or step away kindly. Setting boundaries isn’t selfish – it’s essential for maintaining your peace and honouring your energy.
This holiday season, let your spiritual practice guide you through the ebbs and flows of family dynamics.
With patience, compassion, and a focus on the higher good, you can navigate challenges gracefully and create an atmosphere of love and understanding that everyone will feel.
In a fast-paced world, physical fitness is often seen as a way to stay healthy and look good. But what if exercise could do more than that? What if it could also strengthen your spirit and deepen your sense of purpose? When approached with discipline, physical fitness offers incredible spiritual and mental benefits that go far beyond.
Consistency in physical fitness is a form of discipline, and discipline has a profound spiritual impact. By showing up for yourself, whether lifting weights, running, or practicing yoga, you cultivate self-respect and resilience.
Discipline teaches you to embrace discomfort for the sake of growth, a principle that mirrors spiritual practices like meditation or fasting. Over time, sticking to your fitness routine strengthens not just your body but also your willpower and ability to navigate challenges in other areas of life.
Have you ever felt completely in the zone during a run or weightlifting session? That flow state – where time seems to disappear – is a meditative experience. Physical activity helps quiet the mental chatter, grounding you in the present moment.
Running, cycling, or even walking outdoors can become a spiritual practice when done mindfully. Focus on your breath, the rhythm of your steps, or the sensations in your body. In these moments, exercise transforms into a moving meditation, connecting your mind, body, and spirit.
Physical fitness bridges the gap between the physical and the spiritual. When your body feels strong and energised, your mind is clearer, and you’re better equipped to connect with your spiritual self. Exercise boosts endorphins, reduces stress, and creates a sense of inner calm that can enhance prayer, meditation, or introspection.
A healthy body also serves as a vessel for spiritual growth. Focusing on higher aspirations is easier when you’re not weighed down by fatigue or poor health.
By combining physical fitness with mindfulness and discipline, you’ll discover a deeper connection to your spirit, proving that strength isn’t just physical – it’s spiritual, too.
Try any form of exercise you enjoy and see the lift it gives you
For many, Christmas is a time of togetherness, but for some, it’s a day spent alone. If you’re facing a solo Christmas this year, I want you to know something: it doesn’t have to be lonely. It can be an opportunity to create meaningful, personal traditions that bring you joy and comfort.
Spending Christmas alone isn’t about what’s missing but what you can add to make the day uniquely yours. Let’s explore some ways to fill your Christmas with warmth and meaning.
Think about how you want your Christmas to feel. Peaceful? Joyful? Restorative? Setting an intention for the day can help you choose activities that align with your desired day. You’re in charge here, so make it memorable.
Rituals don’t have to be grand to be meaningful. Perhaps you start the day with your favourite breakfast, complete with a cup of tea or coffee in your coziest mug. Light a candle, play soft music, or watch the sunrise. It’s about creating small moments that feel magical.
Do something festive, like decorating a tiny tree or setting out fairy lights. These little touches can transform your space and lift your spirits even if it’s just for you.
Forget the traditional turkey if it doesn’t excite you. What’s your favourite meal? Cook it. Enjoy every bite. Maybe try a new recipe or indulge in something decadent you’ve been saving for a special occasion. Eating something you love is a simple yet powerful way to celebrate yourself.
Being alone doesn’t mean you can’t connect. Reach out to a friend or family member for a chat, send heartfelt messages, or join an online event. Technology makes it easy to feel connected, even when miles apart.
Alternatively, connect with yourself. Write in a journal, reflect on the year, or meditate. Christmas can be a beautiful time to reconnect with your inner self.
Acts of kindness, even small ones, can fill your heart with joy. Donate to a charity, write a kind note to a neighbour, or give yourself the gift of rest and relaxation. You deserve it.
Take a moment to reflect on the small joys you created. Gratitude, even for tiny things like the glow of a candle or the taste of a warm drink, can shift your perspective and bring you peace.
Christmas alone isn’t something to fear. It’s a chance to discover the beauty of your own company and create traditions that are uniquely yours.
You are enough—and your day can be too.
Wishing you a Christmas full of love and light,
Alison Wem