Know yourself faster: 6 effective ways to gain insight into you

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Look for re-occurring challenges

Life can be full of challenges.  Re-occurring challenge are indicative that a life lesson is being learnt.  I had increasingly difficult managers who
expected me to work all times of the day and week.  It was only when I realised that I was not signaling my boundaries and holding to them did this situation improve.  Many challenges are of our own making.

What life lessons are the people in your life learning? – they may be yours too

Sometimes life lessons like listening or not shouting run in families.  What do you find most irritating about your parents?  Are you like them?  Perhaps there is a lesson there for you too.

Listen to your ‘inner you’

Some call your ‘inner you’ your sub-conscious, higher self, or soul depending on your beliefs.  I like to call it my ‘inner you’ as we have chatted for as long as I can remember and we feel very familiar.  Your ‘inner you’ talks to you in many different ways such as through feelings, knowing, words in a song on the radio or on a bill board.  As you strengthen your communication you will get to know what works for both of you.

Your ‘inner you’ will always have your best interest at heart and can provide good guidance in your life.  These are the clear thoughts that happen in moments of calm.  Learn to trust the messages they bring.

Just STOP for a moment and feel what is important to you

In the 21st century everyone is always connected via phones, tablets etc and rushing about to a hectic schedule.  STOP and for a few moments listen to your ‘inner you’ and feel what is right for you at this time in your life.  It may just be a refreshing few moments of calmness to make the rest of you day more productive.  Enjoy those moments…

Build a soul map and reflect on it

Want to build your personal calmness and wisdom?  Consider investing your time in building a soul map which is a geometric picture that represents you and your life.  As you construct it you gain insight into who you are and where you are going.  The picture reminds you of this information and you can reflect on it to re-experience the calmness you felt when you coloured it.  When I was in a corporate job I used to keep my soul map on my desk and at moments of stress flicker my eyes across it to feel the calmness.  It helped me to cope with my often chaotic days.

Ask your ‘inner you’ a question

Your ‘inner you’ is your best friend.  Do not be afraid to ask a question about your life or a situation you are in.  Just keep the question simple to aid clarity.  Your ‘inner you’ might not give you the answer you desire, but it will always be an honest answer and the one you need to hear for where you are in your life.

Do you chat to your ‘inner you’?  Do let me know your views by commenting below.

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Midlife Awakening: How to Rediscover Your Purpose and Thrive

Midlife is often portrayed as a period of crisis and decline. However, it can also be a time of renewal and rediscovery. Only by your mid-years have you had some time to experience life and discover what works and what doesn’t. In many traditions, you are not considered a potentially wise one until the second half of your life.

As you navigate the complexities of midlife, you can find a renewed sense of purpose that brings fulfilment and joy.

Here are some strategies to help you embrace this transformative mid-life phase and discover new meaning in your life.

Reflect on Your Life’s Journey
  1. Self-Assessment:

Take a moment to reflect on your experiences, achievements, and the lessons you’ve learned so far. Consider what has brought you joy and satisfaction in the past including the difficult challenges you have found a way through. Also, what you have found less rewarding. This self-assessment can provide valuable insights into what you value and what you might want to pursue moving forward.

Doing this exercise is a key one for bringing you insight on what you really want out of life and potentially, what is your soul’s purpose.

  1. Embrace Change:

Recognize that change is a natural part of life. In the 21st century, the rate of change is increasing in almost every facet of our lives. Instead of fearing it, view it as an opportunity for growth. Embracing change can open up new possibilities and help you break free from routines that no longer serve you.

Explore New Interests and Passions

Whatever and whoever pleased you twenty years ago, may no longer be right for you now. Try considering the following approaches.

  1. Lifelong Learning:

Engaging in new educational opportunities can ignite your curiosity and passion. Whether it’s taking a class, learning a new skill, or pursuing a hobby, lifelong learning can bring a renewed sense of purpose and excitement to your life.

  1. Creative Pursuits:

Exploring creative activities like painting, writing, or music can be incredibly fulfiling. These pursuits provide an outlet for self-expression and can help you discover hidden talents and passions you didn’t know you had.

  1. Volunteering:

Giving back to your community through volunteering can bring a deep sense of purpose. We saw lots of this during Covid with the help given to the frailer people in our neighbourhoods. Helping others not only makes a positive impact, but also provides a sense of connection and fulfillment.

Focus on Relationships
  1. Strengthen Connections:

Your life is very much about the relationships you have in it. Midlife is an ideal time to nurture and strengthen your relationships with family and friends. Deepening these connections can provide emotional support and a sense of belonging.

  1. Mentorship:

Sharing your knowledge and experiences with others, particularly younger generations, can be incredibly rewarding. Mentorship allows you to leave a lasting legacy and positively influence others’ lives.

Set New Goals
  1. Re-evaluate Priorities:

Life is forever changing. As you reach midlife, it’s essential to reassess your priorities. Consider what truly matters to you and set new goals that align with your values and aspirations.

  1. Personal Development:

Focus on personal growth and self-improvement. Setting goals related to fitness, mental health, or spiritual growth can bring a renewed sense of purpose and vitality.

  1. Career Transformation:

Midlife can be an opportune time to explore new career paths or make significant changes in your professional life. Pursuing a passion-driven career or starting your own business can be incredibly fulfilling.

I can really recommend this. I gave up my corporate IT role at fifty-nine and became a professional psychic medium. My life could not be more different. But the change brought in lots of new energy and purpose. I have broadened out since then to include many other capabilities, but I have now found what I will do until the day I die, spiritual teaching.

 

Midlife is not the end but a new beginning. I feel, it is a pivotal point in your life where you make decisions which can re-shape the second half of your life. It offers a unique opportunity to;

Reassess, redefine, and rediscover your purpose

By embracing change, exploring new interests, focusing on relationships, setting new goals, and prioritizing well-being, you can find a renewed sense of purpose that brings joy and fulfilment to your life. With people living longer, it is in your interest to set-up the second half of your life to be what you want it to be.

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Do I get guidance through my dreams?

Dreams have fascinated humanity for centuries. Everyone dreams but you may or may not remember them. Or perhaps you remember a fragment of a dream. They create a bridge between your inner and outer worlds. Many believe that dreams are not just random images but meaningful messages of love and guidance from your soul.

Understanding your dreams can offer profound insights from your inner world, guiding you on your life journey.

Dreams can be vivid or vague, joyful or terrifying, linear or chaotic, fantastic or ordinary. Despite their varied nature, dreams often carry symbols to guide you in your life or to give you an alert to a possible danger ahead.

How is your soul trying to speak to you in your dreams?

Your soul will use many approaches to communicating with you. Your soul is your oldest and deepest friend knowing every aspect of you. Here are some of the things you should be alert to in your dreams to aid understanding them.

How do you feel when you wake up?

Emotions you experience in dreams are significant. Waking feeling curious may mean there is something from your dream you need to research and explore further. If you frequently feel anxious in dreams, it could be a sign that your soul is urging you to address anxiety-inducing aspects of your life. Dreams can bring you happiness in meeting a loved one who has passed. Every human emotion can be experienced in dreams.

Symbolic Dreams

Dreams are rarely communicated in a straightforward way. Instead, they use symbols that require interpretation. Examples can include; water symbolising emotions, a house could represent yourself, and a journey might reflect personal growth. Paying attention to recurring symbols can help you decode the messages your soul is sending. A repeated dream can often mean there is a message your soul is trying to give you, but you have not understood it yet.

What guidance and clarity are your dreams bringing you?

Dreams can provide guidance and clarity on issues that perplex you. They might offer solutions to problems, reveal new perspectives, or confirm gut feelings. When you have a problem, many people like to sleep on it before they take any actions.

A dream about a crossroads, for example, could symbolize a critical decision you need to make. Dreams can sometimes predict potential futures and alert you to avoiding accidents or harm.

Healing Dreams

Your soul uses dreams to facilitate healing. Traumatic experiences or unresolved conflicts often resurface in dreams, giving you a chance to process and heal. The healing dream can be symbolic with you as a wounded animal walking to a blue lake for healing and diving in. Confronting these issues in the dream world can lead to emotional release and closure.

Dream visits from loved ones and spirit guides

These are perhaps my favourite dreams. I always feel very loved in these dreams and a wonderful feeling of being connected to the people most important to me.

These dream visits are a great opportunity to complete unfinished business or sort out misunderstandings with a passed loved one.

Meaningful discussions can be held with spirit guides to help you with an aspect of your life or spiritual development.

How do you improve your dream communications?

  • Keep a Dream Journal, in my experience the more you write a journal in the morning of your dreams, the more dreams you receive. It’s like you are saying you are open to dream communication.
  • Practice Mindfulness and meditation, it seems to improve dream recall, perhaps because you have greater inner calmness.
  • Set Intentions, before you go to sleep write an intention or question in your journal for your dreams. Leave the pen on the open, empty page. Your soul will love giving you something to write in the morning.

By paying attention to your dreams and learning to interpret their meaning, you can tap into a deep source of inner wisdom. Treat your dreams as a dialogue with your soul, and let them guide your path.

If you don’t fully understand a dream, you can re-enter a dream. But that is a whole new story…..

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How do you feel about yourself and your life?

When I was growing up, my mum always used to say to me;

People value you at what you value yourself.

At the time I don’t think I truly understood what she meant. But having lived more and experienced other people, I feel there is some truth in what she said.

Ask yourself these questions;

  • Do you express your views and emotions honestly, albeit kindly?
  • Do you take action on how you truly feel?
  • Do you give yourself time and space in your life?
  • Do you look after your own mental health?

If you value yourself in your interactions with others, you are able to feel and speak honestly, know your needs and be able to take actions to satisfy them.

Expressing your views and emotions

Of course it goes without saying, that in sharing your views and emotions it should be with kindness, love and sensitivity to others. If you did it in a way that hurt others or was vulgar and included a lot of swearing, you are not honouring yourself. You may come to regret it. However, being able to speak your truth is very important to feeling a sense of freedom. It should not be ignored and if not done, can make your throat chakra feel uncomfortable and even blocked.

Taking action on how you truly feel

Are you living your own life or one that somebody else wants you to live?

Sometimes fear of doing or saying the wrong thing can stop you from doing what you want to do. This is not about recklessly doing mad things, but rather doing, in a considered way, what feels right for you. You are the most important person in your life. It is right you should get to make the choices for you in your life. Afterall the choices you make today, brings the life you experience tomorrow.

Do you give yourself time and space in your life?

No-one can ‘Go, Go, Go’ all of the time. You need time to pause and reflect on what is going on in your life. Are you leading the life you want? If not, how can you make a course correction to improve it. This pause and reflection take time and space. You may also want time and space to pursue your own interests such as reading or researching a topic that interests you or attend a class, meet a friend. We all need time to just enjoy life.

Life is for living and enjoying.

Looking after your own mental health

Each of us are responsible for the life we lead. Your values, choices and actions lead to the life you experience. Even in the direst of situations, you get to choose how you react to it.

I really admire Viktor Frankl. He expressed in his book, Mans Search for Meaning, how he chose, as an inmate of the extermination camps of World War II, to continue to feel hope for a better life in the future. This single feeling of hope helped him to survive and go on to life a good life. Listening to the negative, angry voice inside would have weakened him. So, he chose to counter it with hope.

How do you value yourself and your life?