Loss of a loved one: how are you coping?

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Loosing a loved one can be tough. Death is often not spoken about, particularly in western cultures. Listen to a frank and open broadcast with Alison Wem of Your Soul Family about recovering from the loss of a loved one.
 
Unexpectedly widowed in her 40s, Alison talks about her experience including how other people struggled to know what to say to her, her emotions and feelings of loneliness. Listen to Alison Wem share how she went about recovering from widowhood to lead a happy and fulfilling life. It includes guidance on how to be kind to yourself while grieving.
 
How did Alison move her life forward? Listen to find out.

 

If you relate to this article and need some more help and guidance in your life – get in touch with Alison. Here are her contact details.

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Awakening to Purpose: A Midlife Spiritual Guide for Men

As men reach their 40s and 50s, many seek deeper meaning and purpose in life. This stage, often called “midlife,” can be a time of transformation, offering the opportunity to reflect and grow spiritually.

Questions arise about purpose, impact, and alignment with their soul, signalling the beginning of a powerful shift from external achievements to inner fulfilment.

Many spiritual articles focus on a female audience with little guidance or encouragement for men. Their perspective on life can be different from women. This article aims to guide men, but it can equally address the needs of women to understand how spirituality affects men in their lives.

Embracing the Midlife Transition

Midlife is often a time when old identities and roles no longer satisfy you. The drive for career success or external validation fades, making space for a deeper connection with the inner self. Rather than focusing on what’s being left behind, midlife can be seen as a time of transformation. It’s a chance to shed old patterns and step into a more authentic, purposeful life.

Spirituality can offer a guiding light through this process. Like the moon’s cycles, this phase of life invites men to embrace new opportunities for growth by letting go of outdated expectations and exploring new spiritual practices.

The Call for Inner Reflection

Midlife is the perfect time to slow down and engage in inner reflection. Practices like meditation, journaling, or time in nature help quiet the mind, allowing deeper desires and purpose to emerge. These spiritual practices support the shift from external focus to internal exploration, opening the door to self-discovery.

For some, this spiritual journey may involve reading about spirituality or engaging in meaningful conversations. Others may find structure in mindfulness, yoga, or reconnecting with religious traditions. The key is to explore what feels aligned with your inner self.

Finding Purpose through Service

One of the most profound ways to rediscover purpose during midlife is through acts of service. Spiritual growth often comes through helping others, whether it’s mentoring younger men, volunteering, or supporting family members. Giving back helps cultivate a sense of connection and meaning, enriching your life and those around you.

Letting Go of Old Definitions of Success

Midlife brings a need to redefine success. Success has long been tied to career accomplishments, financial security, or status for many men. But as these external markers lose their appeal, it’s essential to shift toward a more personal definition of success, one focused on being present, living authentically, and pursuing deeper meaning.

Stepping into Your New Chapter

Finding purpose in midlife is about embracing a journey, not reaching a final destination. Spiritual growth during this stage invites you to reconnect with your inner self, let go of old expectations, and discover what truly brings meaning to your life. You can step into this new chapter with a renewed sense of purpose through spiritual practices, reflection, and service to others.

Midlife is not an end, but a beginning – a profound opportunity to discover peace and purpose in your life’s journey.

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Moments of Peace: Simple Daily Rituals for Inner Calm

Life can feel so busy that it can be a challenge to find a few moments of calm, especially for women balancing full-on lives filled with work, family, and personal responsibilities. However, incorporating simple daily rituals into your routine can create pockets of peace, helping you stay centred and grounded. These practices are easy to integrate into your everyday life and can be powerful tools for cultivating inner peace and mindfulness. They include:

  • Morning mindfulness practice
  • Gratitude journaling
  • Mindful movement
  • Tea or coffee ritual
  • Evening wind-down routine.

Let’s have a look at them in a little more detail.

Morning Mindfulness Practice

Starting your day with a moment of mindfulness can set a calm, intentional tone. Begin each morning with five minutes of meditation or deep breathing. Sit quietly, focus on your breath, and allow your thoughts to settle. Some people do this at the end of their bathroom washing routine. Mindfulness helps reduce anxiety, improve focus, and encourage a peaceful mindset.

Consider using a mantra or prayer during your meditation for added spiritual depth. A simple phrase like “I am at peace” can help ground you and foster a positive mindset.

Gratitude Journaling

Gratitude journaling shifts your focus from stress to positivity. Each morning or evening, take a few moments to write down three things you’re grateful for. These can be as simple as a warm drink or as meaningful as a supportive conversation with a loved one.

Regular gratitude practice has been shown to improve mood and enhance overall well-being. Over time, this ritual fosters a positive outlook on life, increasing awareness of the small joys around you.

Mindful Movement

Physical movement connects the mind and body. Yoga or stretching can release tension while promoting mental clarity. Even a 10-minute yoga session can improve your mood.

Walking meditation is another option. Instead of rushing, take a mindful walk and focus on the sensations around you, the ground under your feet, the breeze, or the sounds of nature. This brings you into the present moment and fosters relaxation.

Tea or Coffee Ritual

Try turning your daily tea or coffee into a mindful ritual. Take time to savour your drink’s smell, taste, and warmth. Be fully present in the experience, using it as a moment of self-care and calm in your busy day. You can do this at work or home.

This simple mindfulness exercise helps slow your racing mind down and lets you find peace in ordinary moments.

Evening Wind-Down Routine

A calming evening routine helps transition from the day’s busyness to restful sleep. Create a ritual that signals your mind and body to unwind. Light a candle, diffuse essential oils, or take a warm bath to relax.

Adding a short meditation or reading a peaceful book can help quiet the mind before bed, allowing you to release the day’s stress and prepare for restful sleep.

Embrace Rituals for Peace

Daily rituals offer a powerful way to cultivate inner peace, providing moments of mindfulness and calm. You don’t have to do all of these. Choose the ones that appeal to you or fit well with your daily routine. By integrating simple practices like mindfulness, gratitude, and movement into your daily routine, you can build a foundation for spiritual well-being and balance. These rituals foster relaxation and help you connect more deeply with yourself, bringing peace into your everyday life.

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How do I show myself love and compassion?

So often in our world the emphasises is on achievements. Loving yourself can feel like a radical act. Yet, self-love is the cornerstone of mental well-being and personal growth. But,

How do you love yourself?

For me, the key things to embrace are;

  • Acknowledge your worth
  • Practice self-care
  • Set boundaries
  • Embrace imperfection
  • Celebrate your uniqueness.

The very first step in loving yourself is to acknowledge your value. It is not about your successes or failures but more about your inherent worth. Reflect on your strengths and weaknesses no matter how small you feel they may be. Sometimes being that person in the family who notices when someone needs a helping hand has enormous worth.

Don’t underate yourself.

Practicing self-care is about taking care of your physical, emotional, and mental health. Most of this is simple and basic such as ensuring you get enough sleep, eat nutritious food, and engage in regular physical activity.

Prioritise activities that bring you joy and relaxation.

Examples might include reading, gardening and spending time with those you love.

Loving yourself means respecting your own limits so you need to define your boundaries and hold them. Learn to say no to things that drain your energy or compromise your values. Surround yourself with people who uplift and support you. Setting healthy boundaries protects your well-being and fosters better relationships.

No-one is perfect. We all have imperfections so rather than berate yourself, accept that making mistakes is a natural part of life. When you make a mistake be kind to yourself as you would for a friend. Do remember….

It is alright to be work in progress.

There are things you can do to help you with self-love such as,

  • Mindfulness
  • Don’t listen to the negative inner talk
  • Celebrate your uniqueness
  • Forgive and be kind to yourself
  • Get help if you need it.

These approaches to living your life help you to love yourself more easily.

Mindfulness helps you to feel your emotions and let them go, not to judge yourself and gives you strategies such as deep breathes to help you manage yourself. This will help you to increase your self-awareness and reduce stress.

Negative self-talk can seriously affect your self-esteem. Try to replace it with positive supportive messages. What would you say to a dear friend who is struggling? Say this to yourself. Overtime this wonderful inner kind person can help to transform your life.

You are a wonderful person so embrace what makes you unique. It is those things that make you who you are. Don’t compare yourself to others.

Your journey is yours alone and you get to decide the pace at which you want to go.

Holding onto past mistakes or regrets can hinder your ability to love yourself fully. Be kind to yourself;

Forgive your mistakes, learn and move forwards.

If all of this becomes overwhelming, know it’s alright to seek help whether it is from trusted and loving family, a friend or a professional. Talking is so good to help you gain perspective on your life, strengthen your self-love and to decide how to move forwards.

Loving yourself is a lifelong journey, not a destination.

Be patience, practice, and be persistent. You can cultivate a deeper sense of self-compassion. Know you are deserving of love, kindness, and respect—especially from yourself.