Men: the secrets of surviving Christmas

Published by Alison Wem on

The approach to Christmas can be a challenging time. Not only is it a busy time for the person preparing the Christmas Day celebrations, but tension can run in families where couples do not agree on the style of celebrations. Do you recognise the scenario?

Lets look at some tips for the man of the house…..

Tip #1  Remember your partner is doing their best to make Christmas a joyous and happy time for all. A little encouragement can go a long way.

Tip #2 Rather than complain about the amount of money being spent, try to find some alternative treats or better still make or cook some.

Tip #3 Try not to be grumpy if the treats you want are not the same as those your loved ones want. Flexibility at least for Christmas Day will bring family harmony. 

Apologies for these suggestions to the men who are encouraging, relaxed about the money being spent and flexible with doing what the rest of the family wants on Christmas Day……

3 tips tomorrow for women on surviving Christmas.

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Mindfulness Made Easy: Quick Practices for Busy Women to Stay Grounded and Centred

Let’s face it: life can be a whirlwind. With so much on our plates, finding calm can feel like just another thing on the to-do list. But here’s the good news—mindfulness doesn’t need to take hours of your day. With a few simple practices, you can find little moments of peace, even in the busiest times. Let’s explore a few ways to stay grounded that fit right into a busy schedule.

  1. Start Your Day with a Gentle Intention

Take a few deep breaths when you wake up. Ask yourself, “What do I need most today?” Whether it’s calm, focus, or energy, setting a gentle intention only takes a moment but can really set the tone for your day. Being positive about your day when you wake up and directing what you want to have in it, has a powerful effect. It’s a small but strong way to remind yourself that you matter, too.

  1. Try “Pause Breaths” During Stressful Moments

When you feel the stress creeping in, pause. Close your eyes if you can, take a deep breath in, hold it, and then slowly release. Repeat this at least three times. Even just a minute of mindful breathing can reset your nerves and help you feel more present. These little “pause breaths” are always there for you when you need them.

  1. Single-Task When You Can

With so much going on, it’s easy to fall into multitasking, but try to focus on one thing at a time when possible. Multitasking can be stressful and studies show you can be less effective operating like this as it takes time to switch intellectually from one task to another. Notice the sensations of whatever you’re doing—washing dishes, folding laundry, anything. It brings you into the moment and helps keep your mind from running all over the place. Personally, I get my best spiritual messages when I am doing a big pile of ironing!

  1. Find “Mindful Minutes”

Those tiny pauses in your day—waiting in line, sitting with your morning coffee—are golden opportunities to bring in mindfulness. Feel the warmth of your coffee mug or the air around you. Even just a moment of awareness can bring a sense of calm to your day. You may feel your energy relaxing and your body being more comfortable.

  1. Be Gentle with Yourself

Most importantly, give yourself a bit of grace. Be kind to yourself as you would your best friend. Mindfulness isn’t about getting it right every time; it’s about bringing a little more kindness into your day. When you’re feeling stressed, remind yourself, “I’m doing my best.” Because you are, and that’s more than enough.

 

Remember, mindfulness doesn’t require perfection; it’s just about finding little ways to feel more present and grounded in your life right now.

Try these tips, and remember, you’re doing a wonderful job.

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Your Peaceful Place: Designing a Sacred Space at Home

Constant noise and distractions seem to be the norm of the 21st century. I really notice the difference when I return to London after being in the rural countryside. This has led me to believe creating a sacred space at home is essential for nurturing your spiritual well-being. Many women value a peaceful environment; a personal sanctuary can bring balance and inner calm. Whether you have an entire room or just a small corner, a sacred space is where you can retreat and recharge.

Here’s how to create your own sacred space to support your spiritual journey and promote inner peace.

Choose Your Space Wisely

You don’t need a large area, but the space should be somewhere you feel comfortable and undisturbed. A quiet corner in your bedroom, a nook by the window, or even a section of your garden can work perfectly. Focus on an area that feels safe, calm, and inviting.

Natural light can enhance the atmosphere, so choose a spot with soft lighting if possible. If not, use gentle artificial lighting to create a warm, peaceful ambiance.

Clear and Cleanse the Space

Start by decluttering your chosen area. An uncluttered space invites a clear, calm mind. Once the physical space is cleared, cleanse it energetically. You can use sage, palo santo, or incense to purify the air and set the tone for peace and healing. If you are unable to do this, you can clear a space energetically by clapping your hands.

While cleansing, set an intention for the space. Whether for inner peace, healing, or spiritual growth, your space will hold the energy you infuse into it.

Bring in Elements of Nature

Incorporating nature helps ground your space. You can add plants, crystals, seashells, or stones, anything that connects you to the earth. Each of these elements brings its own energy. Plants purify the air, while crystals can offer specific healing properties, depending on your needs.

Select items that resonate with you and create a sense of peace and harmony. I like to change these items with the seasons. The autumn has arrived in the UK. As the leaves on the trees change to wonderful colours, I will definitely be making use of them in my sacred space.

Create Comfort and Warmth

Comfort is vital in your sacred space. Add cushions, soft blankets, or a meditation pillow to create a cozy environment. Choose seating that fits how you intend to use the space, whether it’s for meditation, journaling, or quiet reflection.

Candles can also enhance the sense of warmth. Beeswax or essential oil-infused candles are ideal, and lighting one can mark the start of your sacred time.

Personalise Your Space

This is your sanctuary, so personalise it with items that are meaningful to you. Add spiritual symbols, personal mementos, or artwork that inspires and uplifts you. You might include a small altar with objects representing what you wish to invite into your life – peace, love, or clarity.

Use Your Space with Intention

The power of your sacred space comes from using it regularly. Whether for meditation, yoga, or simple moments of silence, make it a habit to retreat there daily. Set an intention each time you enter, aligning the space’s energy with your spiritual goals.

Creating a sacred space at home is a simple yet powerful way to nurture your inner peace. You’ll create a sanctuary that supports your spiritual well-being by choosing a space, cleansing it, adding natural elements, and using it intentionally.

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Embracing Eco-Friendly Living with Spiritual Wisdom

Climate change is a growing global concern, with the effects of the change increasingly being felt in the UK and other countries. Rising temperatures, extreme weather events, and environmental challenges demand urgent attention. While much focus is on scientific and policy-driven solutions, the spiritual dimension of caring for the Earth is equally important. Many spiritual traditions call for environmental stewardship, emphasizing humanity’s responsibility to protect and care for our planet. It is a sacred place for all who live on Earth.

Spiritual Roots of Environmental Stewardship

Across numerous faiths, the Earth is seen as sacred, and humans are regarded as its stewards. In the Christian Bible, Genesis speaks of humans being asked to “tend and keep” the Earth. This calls for responsible use of natural resources and care for the environment for future generations.

Islam promotes a similar idea, with humans seen as khalifas (stewards) of the Earth. The Quran advocates for maintaining balance and caring for the environment, viewing the Earth as a sacred trust that must be respected and preserved.

Buddhism also emphasizes non-harming (ahimsa) as a core principle that extends to all living beings, including the environment. Buddhist teachings encourage compassion, mindfulness, and ethical action as ways to address the suffering caused by environmental destruction.

Whatever your faith, you all have a part to play in caring for the Earth so it might thrive and future generations can have a joyful place to live, work, and play.

Accepting the interdependency between all living beings 

This approach sees the Earth as a living, interconnected system, aligning with the teachings of many Indigenous traditions that view nature as sacred. Individuals are encouraged to develop a deep understanding of how humanity affects the environment and to commit to protecting and preserving the natural world. We are a part of, not separate from, the natural world. How we choose to live affects all around us. Not just humans but every aspect of Nature.

Spiritual Teachings and Climate Action

Spiritual teachings offer both comfort and motivation for climate action. As climate change worsens, many faiths emphasise the moral imperative to act. The Pope urges global action on climate change while addressing its disproportionate impact on the poor. Those with limited resources will find it challenging to thrive on a planet experiencing climate change. The weather’s reliability is called into question making the growing of food in the required quantity less certain.

People in the UK are also increasingly advocating for environmental sustainability. These groups often focus on practical actions, such as reducing waste, conserving water, and advocating for renewable energy, encouraging individuals and communities to make ecologically conscious choices.

A Call to Collective Responsibility

At its heart, environmental stewardship is a collective spiritual responsibility. Many traditions, whether through religious teachings or personal spiritual practice, remind us that the Earth is a gift that must be cherished and protected. The interconnectedness of life calls for respect, care, and action to preserve the environment for future generations.

The fight against climate change is not just a scientific challenge but a moral and spiritual one, calling on humanity to act as true stewards of the Earth.