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How to be mindful while falling in love

“‘Falling in love’ is an interesting term.  We could say ‘strolling into love’ or ‘mentally preparing for love’ but we use the term ‘falling.’ It’s almost like it’s we’re throwing ourselves off a cliff and falling without any hope of parachute or sense that we may get wounded along the way. It’s simply opening ourselves up to the experience and hoping the other person is also falling beside us.”

— Lodro Rinzler, author of the new book “Love Hurts” and co-founder of MNDFL meditation studio. read more

By Alison Wem, ago

Do your friends and family think you are crazy?

What is this mindfulness stuff? a mental state achieved by focusing awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations. Calmness and an inner peace arrives with this state.

How do you focus on the present moment? There are many techniques. Meditation is popular but a walk in the park, painting or colouring are good too.  I recommend painting a soul map as your brain responds to the symmetrical pattern.

You were once so different; perhaps your life values were different for example; career driven at all costs, you valued big houses and expensive cars, or perhaps you were too shy to do what you wanted to do with your life.  You felt happiness in some way eluded you.  You did not have a sense of satisfaction with your life. read more

By Alison Wem, ago

The ‘Power of Knowing’ leadership techniques

It is hard to be a great chef when you have never experienced a fantastic meal, looked at a recipe or felt the ingredients. You can learn the techniques to be able to lead yourself and your teams.

Enabling change from the inside out: to do this you need to gain insight into your strengths, potential need to change certain habits, the values you hold and determine your goals.

7 steps to achieving success:

  1. Know yourself – Identify what stage you are in your leadership and life. What you have learned so far? Have you acquired any bad habits? Discover what change is needed.
  2. Gain insight on your strengths that you can build on and identify weaknesses that need to be dealt with. Develop the art of becoming the ‘detached observer’.
  3. Focus and Intention – Learn the power of focus and intention. Where your energy goes things happen. But are you focusing on the right things? Clarifying your purpose and develop your personal compass for the next stage in your life and leadership.
  4. Values and Purpose – Identify the values that are connected to your purpose. These guide and influence your choices, decisions and relationships, plus shape your character as a leader
  5. Vision for the Future – Create the vision of what you want your future to look like. Learn to clarify your priorities in key areas of your life – professional, family & friends, yourself.
  6. Overcome Obstacles and Challenges – Explore the obstacles and challenges that need to be dealt with for you to achieve your vision. Identify root causes of old patterns that are compromising your success.
  7. Goals, Strategy and Action Plan – Define your goals, strategies and action plan to achieve your vision of the next chapter in your life. Learn how to sustain your energy, commitment and enthusiasm for the direction you choose.

Now bring your vision into reality

Alison Pooley-Wem – life coach, author and leadership consultant, MBCS CITP, former Business Transformation Director, IT Director, Programme Director who led major transformation programmes for corporate and multi-national organisations such as Amey PLC, Christies. News UK. read more

By Alison Wem, ago

YSF Autumn 2020 Programme

Group Class – via Zoom

Spiritual Development 

6 week evening course to gain more insight into yourself, your soul family and where your life is going. Commences on the 14th October 2020 via Zoom. No problem if you have missed the start date. Just make contact with Alison so she can prepare for you joining.

Book now £10 per session pay-as-you-go

Individual Sessions with Alison Wem

Private appointment – Soul Map reading

Receive a Soul Map reading from Alison Wem to help with the key messages your ‘inner you’ is trying to share with you.   Sessions held using Skype or face to face in London. You will need to choose a template, colour it before the session and send it to Alison. Book here read more

By Alison Wem, ago

Women: do they make good coaches?

When I started my career in IT, I was often the only woman on the team.  What I observed was that men operated differently and I had to learn to adapt to a new set of team social rules.  In my experience men are;

  • much more direct
  • may even shout at you when irritated
  • not hold a grudge afterwards.

Having a mentor to help with this learning became an imperative for me and was enormously beneficial.

If like me you are in the second half of your career, you may have ruminated on how you operate in the workplace.  Meeting up with a former manager from my youth, he reminded me how when I first worked for him I did not speak up in a group situation, even when he knew I had some good ideas.  This is not an uncommon trait in a woman at work. read more

By Alison Wem, ago

Learning resilience

A resilient person is someone who can manage uncertainty and recover from adversity well.

Learning to become a resilient person helps to develop your inner strength.  During your life, challenges and crises will inevitably hit you.  We cannot predict when they will come.  Challenges are opportunities to learn life lessons.  Having some resilience through an inner strength helps you to navigate your challenges and to learn from them.

The world is an increasingly uncertain place.  By developing resilience you will have the emotional strength to navigate your way through whatever arrives for you.  You may also have the resilience to help others through their challenges too. read more

By Alison Wem, ago