Men: 3 tips for surviving Christmas

The approach to Christmas can be a challenging time. Not only is it a busy time for the person preparing the Christmas Day celebrations, but tension can run in families where couples do not agree on the style of celebrations. Do you recognise the scenario?
Lets look at some tips for the man of the house….. Tip #1  Remember your partner is doing their best to make Christmas a joyous and happy time for all. A little encouragement can go a long way. Tip #2 Rather than complain about the amount of money being spent, try to find some alternative treats or better still make or cook some. Tip #3 Try not to be grumpy if the treats you want are not the same as those your loved ones want. Flexibility at least for Christmas Day will bring family harmony. Apologies for these suggestions to the men who are encouraging, relaxed about the money being spent and flexible with doing what the rest of the family wants on Christmas Day…… 3 tips tomorrow for women on surviving Christmas.

Happiness: 5 thoughts for the coming month

Happiness is on the inside

Just looking at this picture makes me feel good.  You can feel the joy of this young man having fun in the shower.

Some tips on finding your personal happiness;
  • One small positive thought when you wake-up can change how you feel for your entire day. What a great way to start your day
  • Tell yourself; Today I refuse to stress myself out over things I cannot control or change. Let them go and enjoy the things in your life you can control. Make sure they are really what you want in your life.
  • The best things in life are free: hugs, smiles, friends, kisses, family, sleep, love, laughter and good memories. Put plenty of them in your day
  • Happiness can be as simple as; meeting an old friend after a long time and feeling that nothing has changed.
  • I am stronger having learnt from my mistakes.  Happier because I have known sadness and learnt how to improve how I feel on the inside.
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    Who am I?: can I influence the world I live in which is so full of fear

    Am I just flesh and bones?

    Do you feel there is more to you than flesh and bones?

    Well yes actually. I am more than my body. I have thoughts, feelings and dreams. I love my parents, my partner and my children even though they annoy me sometimes. Surely all of this is part of me as well as my body.

    Your thoughts, feelings and dreams are all energy as much as your body. Have you ever felt your mother’s disapproval without her even speaking a word?

    Well of course I have, especially when I was growing up.

    You are an energy being and can sense and even read other people’s energy.

    You are energy and according to the laws of physics, energy cannot be destroyed.

    So what does that say about ‘Who I am?

    Energy transforms itself when other forces are applied to it. For example; an acorn falls on the ground. A root grows into the earth and draws water and nutrients to enable a tree to grow. The acorn transforms this food into it’s first leaf which then adds energy to the plant from the rays of the sun. So the acorn grows into a strong tree with thick boughs and lots of leaves. Eventually the tree grows old and dies. The boughs fall to the grown but they retain the energy captured in the tree during it’s lifetime. Over millions of years the wood is compressed into coal. When you light the coal, it gives off heat, releasing the energy the tree captured over a million years ago. Energy transforms over time but is not destroyed.

    Am I an acorn too?

    You have chosen to bring your energy into a body for a limited space of time to experience a life. You are your body but you are also your soul, that inner part of you that experiences thoughts, feelings and love. Through your life you experience humanity from the perspective you have chosen by being born into this particular life. When you die you withdraw your energy from this body taking with you the memories and experience you have gained from that life.

    Why would I do that?

    In experiencing a life you are given the opportunity to learn and improve your behaviour, your reaction to events or how other people treat you. I like to call them life lessons. They are things such as the value of listening, defining your personal boundaries and holding them, being non-judgemental. As you learn these skills, they become your personal wisdom. We each have learnt a different composite of life lessons which is what makes each person unique.

    That implies we bring into this life our personal bag of skills which then implies we have lived a life before. read more

    Send love to someone you cannot meet

    I am learning from giving virtual reiki sessions over WhatsApp in lockdown London, that distance is absolutely no problem for energy. My friends and customers are amazed that it feels the same as when I am in the same room as them.

    Love is intelligent energy and has no bounds.

    So with this post of the Kyoto Garden in Holland Park, London I am sending my love to my friend Hitomi in Tokyo. Normally she visits us every other year but she has not been able to come due to the virus. Hitomi, we are missing you and hope we can meet again sometime soon.

    Try watching this short video and send your love to someone you cannot meet at the moment.

    A message of love for a loved one

    How are we coping with so many people dying of Covid-19?

    Grieving for a loss or trying to support someone who has lost a loved one?

    All of us experience grief at some point in our lives.  When we experience it for the first time it can come as quite a shock.  It is often not talked about so it is hard to know how to deal with it.

    In the UK over 100,000 people have passed as a direct result of catching Covid-19. On average for each person who passes, 8 – 10 people feel the loss of them in their lives.

    The population of the UK is approximately 68m people and up to 1m of them are currently grieving. Many of them are young adults who did not expect to loose a parent so soon. 1m people is nearly 1.5% of the population, so probably all of us know someone who has lost a loved one and is grieving. The UK is not the only country in this situation.

    What can we do to support the grieving?