why can’t I feel happy

Grieving over the loss of a loved one?

All of us experience grief at some point in our lives. When we experience it for the first time, it can come as quite a shock. It is often not talked about so it is hard to know how to deal with it.

When someone you love dies it can leave a big hole in your life. It can feel like life is no longer worth living. If there has been an illness and anticipation of death, you may have had the opportunity to say the important things you wanted to say such as how much you love each other or maybe forgiveness for a perceived wrong. read more

By Alison Wem, ago

Feel good: tips on being uplifted

It is very easy to worry over challenges in your life until you do not feel good. In this state it is all too easy to lose perspective and make the challenge seem even larger than it really is.

How do you relax and get your mind and body back into balance?

Here are some tips on finding balance in your life enabling you to regain perspective. Life will not seem so scary when you are able to truly appraise your challenges.

Music and dance

When we dance together, we repeatedly practice taking steps together to stay in tune with the music, the energy around us gains greater harmony and so collaboration is easier, and agreements are more likely to be adhered to. read more

By Alison Wem, ago

Happiness: 5 thoughts for the coming month

Happiness is on the inside

Just looking at this picture makes me feel good.  You can feel the joy of this young man having fun in the shower.

Some tips on finding your personal happiness;
  1. One small positive thought when you wake-up can change how you feel for your entire day. What a great way to start your day
  2. Tell yourself; Today I refuse to stress myself out over things I cannot control or change. Let them go and enjoy the things in your life you can control. Make sure they are really what you want in your life.
  3. The best things in life are free: hugs, smiles, friends, kisses, family, sleep, love, laughter and good memories. Put plenty of them in your day
  4. Happiness can be as simple as; meeting an old friend after a long time and feeling that nothing has changed.
  5. I am stronger having learnt from my mistakes.  Happier because I have known sadness and learnt how to improve how I feel on the inside.

It is within your control to choose happiness.

Life without laughter is not living. Smile at the world and it will smile back at you. When you walk down the street, smile at the people walking towards you. Even in a city like London where I live which can be an anonymous place, total strangers will smile at me and even ask how I am when I practice smiling. It makes me feel good inside. read more

By Alison Wem, ago