The Quiet Leader: Guiding from Wisdom, Not Ego

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Leadership isn’t always about being the loudest in the room. True leadership – whether in work, family, or community – comes from a place of wisdom, not ego. The quiet leader leads by example, presence, and integrity, not by force.

Choosing quiet strength may seem unconventional in a world that often rewards dominance and noise. But the most influential leaders throughout history – those who have truly inspired change – are the ones who led with inner wisdom, not external power.

Authentic leadership begins within

A quiet leader doesn’t seek validation or control. Instead, they cultivate self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and deep listening. When you know yourself- your values, strengths, and limitations – you lead with clarity and authenticity.

The strongest men are not those who shout but those who stand firm in their truth.

Guiding with presence, not force

Quiet leadership isn’t about passivity; it’s about being fully present. Instead of demanding respect, the quiet leader earns it through consistent actions, thoughtful decisions, and a calm, steady presence.

  • In the workplace, a quiet leader creates trust, allowing their team to thrive without micromanagement.
  • In relationships, they listen deeply, making others feel seen and valued.
  • In family life, they lead by example, showing strength through patience and emotional steadiness.
Letting wisdom – not ego – take the lead

Ego-driven leadership craves control, recognition, and superiority. Wisdom-led leadership, on the other hand, focuses on service, humility, and shared growth.

A wise leader understands that leadership is not about them, but about the people they guide. They ask:

How can I support and empower others? How can I create an environment where everyone thrives?

The power of quiet influence

Quiet leaders don’t need to dominate conversations or prove their worth. Instead, they lead through:
✔ Stillness in chaos – remaining calm under pressure.
✔ Confidence without arrogance – knowing their value without needing to boast.
✔ Compassionate strength – uplifting others rather than competing.

Becoming a quiet leader in your own life

You don’t need a title to lead. Whether in your workplace, family, or community, the world needs more people who lead with wisdom, not ego.

Authentic leadership isn’t about standing above others. It’s about standing beside them, offering guidance, strength, and integrity.

 

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War: How do we find peace?

I am writing this article to you on Armistice Day when at the eleventh hour on the eleventh day of the eleventh month in 1918, the peace treaty was signed ending World War I.

How do we achieve peace in the Ukraine and Gaza?

In improving the way humanity chooses to live, I have always felt it will be a bottom-up evolution with the masses deciding what is the right way to live, forcing our national leaders to change the way they behave.

However, there is nothing stronger than the anger of one nation on another nation. We are seeing this in Gaza/Israel and Russia/Ukraine. In these circumstances I feel it will take a special sort of leader(s) to achieve peace.

To achieve lasting peace, it will be necessary for the waring nations to find the Middle Path between opposite views that both sides can live with.

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A strong leader is connected to their intuition and can hear their guidance from Spirit.

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How do our national leaders measure up against these challenging requirements?

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To find peace, we need to find leaders with pure hearts and a strong connection to their intuition.

If you live in a democratic country, it is you and me who vote our leaders into power. Perhaps you can consider the characteristics of a good leader the next time you go to a voting station…..

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Be the change…..

You must be the change you want to see in the world- Mahatma Gandhi

When you alter your thoughts, change your beliefs, how you feel and actions you take, you change the world around you. As your actions become your habits, your inner world shifts and you start viewing the world through the same lenses. What we see and how we experience the world is through our tinted glasses.


I might not be in control of what happens around me, but I am in total control of how I react to it. You are in control of how you think, feel, perceive and respond to someone or something around you.

Be in control of your thoughts, feelings and actions.


If you want to achieve change effectively and permanently, change needs to come from within you. When we try to change ourselves, not congruent with our inner self, we tend to slip back into old patterns and self-sabotaging habits. When we carry negative emotions, fear and limiting beliefs within us, it creates stumbling blocks to the process.
When you eliminate inner conflict and become authentic, you create a world you desire you can sustain.


Imagine for a moment and reflect:
 Have you ever tried to change you?
 How long did it take you?
 How easy or difficult was it?
 Were you successful or failed a few times before you got there?


Before you expect CHANGE or get disappointed with someone for not changing, take a moment to answer these questions
You are not what others perceive you to be; you are what you think, believe and become.


There is only one person you can change, and it is YOU!!!

Menaca Pothalingam-Joji

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After successfully practising dentistry for over 20 years and building a practice in London, she now advises healthcare professionals on their client skills and how to build a successful business.

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