How to be mindful while falling in love

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“‘Falling in love’ is an interesting term.  We could say ‘strolling into love’ or ‘mentally preparing for love’ but we use the term ‘falling.’ It’s almost like it’s we’re throwing ourselves off a cliff and falling without any hope of parachute or sense that we may get wounded along the way. It’s simply opening ourselves up to the experience and hoping the other person is also falling beside us.”

— Lodro Rinzler, author of the new book “Love Hurts” and co-founder of MNDFL meditation studio.
Try this exercise, it is really good.

How to be mindful while falling in love

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dineshh_kumar202026903 · 3 May, 2018 at 5:27 pm

Very Nice
How is it possible to love with mind but not heart?

    Alison Wem · 4 May, 2018 at 2:05 pm

    I agree with you Dineshh, love flows from the heart.
    Mindfulness is a state of presence where you reduce the endless chatter of your mind and enjoy the calmness of the present moment. ‘Mindfulness’ implies it happens in the mind but it is really about reducing the activity of the mind. In the exercise mindfulness is used to calm the mind so you can feel what your heart is telling you. I believe it is from your heart that you receive your personal wisdom.
    Hope this helps…

      dineshh_kumar202026903 · 4 May, 2018 at 2:24 pm

      Thanks for your respose mam.
      Of course it is so much precious as well as helpful for me.
      Thanks once again. ????

        Alison Wem · 4 May, 2018 at 2:32 pm

        You are welcome.

          dineshh_kumar202026903 · 4 May, 2018 at 5:06 pm

          May I ask u more questions mam? If u permit me to do so. But I think your post will get full of my comments if I post them publically. So kindly find a solution of this issue. And please respond me what to do?

          Alison Wem · 7 May, 2018 at 9:17 am

          Dinesh, email me at alison.wem@gmail.com and I will answer your questions.

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